I’d love to hear everyone’s thoughts on this. My ex and I broke up two weeks ago, but just a few days before that, he asked me where I wanted to go for my birthday weekend. I decided on Scottsdale, and now, my birthday is two weeks away. Tonight, he tells me that the hotel is non-refundable and he’s still going—on what was supposed to be my birthday trip. He claims he’s going by himself, but yeah, right ??.
I think it’s beyond messed up for him to still go, even if he doesn’t bring someone else. It feels rude, disrespectful, and inconsiderate, especially knowing that it ruins my birthday plans. He says he doesn’t want credits or to lose the money, but it just seems so dirty to me, especially for what was supposed to be a special weekend. Ladies, how would you feel in my shoes?
Last updated on:2024-10-26T12:55:20+05:30
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Money is expensive and I know no one wants to hear this but it maybe that he really wanted to go and now that everything is over.. he wants to go still..just simple and plain?
He's trying to hurt you. Don't let him.
It's a sign that he's not really sorry for breaking up.
He's trying to make you feel bad for him. Don't fall for it.
It's a sign that he's not ready to let go. He's still trying to hold on to the relationship.
He's trying to use your birthday as a way to get back at you. Don't let him.
I'd be tempted to tell him to keep the hotel. It's not worth the hassle or the pain.
It's a sign that he doesn't really care about your feelings. He's putting himself first, even at the expense of your happiness.
I'd be so disappointed and hurt. It's a slap in the face after everything you two have been through.
He's probably hoping you'll feel guilty and try to convince him to let you go. Don't fall for it. He's being manipulative.
I'd be furious. It's a complete lack of empathy and consideration. He's trying to punish you by taking away your birthday plans.
It's a classic case of 'I'm going to do what I want, regardless of how it affects you.' It's a red flag for future relationships.
He's basically saying your feelings don't matter. It's a power play to make you feel bad for him. Don't let him. Find a way to celebrate your birthday on your terms.
That's incredibly selfish and disrespectful of him. He should have cancelled the hotel or offered to let you go with a friend. It's a total betrayal of your plans.