Just ended things with my partner of a year cuz he’s unsure about our future and sometimes lashes out. We love each other a lot and have said it but he’s not into settling down (I have a kid he doesn’t). His doubts made me feel like I’m not enough so I had to let go. scared he won’t even care and will just move on like nothing happened. We’re super close and besties—will he even miss me? Can’t believe this is my life.
Last updated on:2024-12-10T15:45:22+05:30
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yeah we do. Like, today my heart got straight-up wrecked. I can’t speak for all guys, but this is the worst I’ve ever felt, and honestly I have no clue how to deal with it.
I was wondering do women feel that soul-crushing heartbreak when a super long relationship ends as badly as guys do? After being with her for almost years, she just started pulling away and then ghosted me. Mentally it's brutal—no explanation no closure. Gave her the best years of my life and now I'm alone. I don't think I'll ever get over this. I'm just lost.
Bro, this hits hard. Like, how can it only get easier after years? What do you think's the reason?
@Siddyickk The truth is I was just too dumb and naive to see how fake she was. She only kept me around cuz I was useful but couldn’t even be straight about it. She didn’t care about me at all. I got played. I loved her but it wasn’t mutual. She lied about everything—not just to me but to everyone.
TLDR: I’m a guy and it hurts like crazy. Still think about her every day.
It’s been almost months since my relationship ended. Just found out she’s with some guy now the one who’s been around the whole time (he’s been friends with her for years). Guess he wanted more than just friendship.
That's a kick in the guts.
Society’s kinda made it seem like guys are better at shutting off their emotions. Idk about him but as a guy I’m lowkey broken and some days it’s just too much. This is the worst I’ve ever felt. Honestly it’s tough for everyone.
I feel like guys really struggle with this stuff. If we were really in love and she left it can totally wreck us.
@Finn2Flame I get it but I didn’t just ditch him :( I literally worshipped him and that’s what hurts the most
@ImogenIona sometimes you can do everything right and it still doesn’t work out. but just cuz it didn’t work out doesn’t erase all the effort you put in. you didn’t leave anyone hanging
Sis, I'm fighting the urge to end it every day since the BU, and yeah I’m a guy. We feel it too. It really depends on the person.
Big thanks to y'all for checking in on me. Wild how strangers on the internet care more than the girl who broke my heart and hasn’t reached out once since the BU. Anyway it’s more like those “I can’t live like this anymore” vibes. I was super dependent on her and, being real, I’m really self-conscious, so I guilt-trip myself a lot about what I might’ve done wrong.
The last few months were tough for my mental health and I think that’s what led to the BU. Sometimes those dark thoughts pop up and linger but I don’t think I’d ever actually do it. I’m too scared—and for once, that’s a good thing, lol. Plus, I couldn’t put my family through that. So yeah thanks again really for checking on me. Means a lot.
Hey don’t give up on yourself. I get it some days you wake up and think, what’s even the point? But the point is your journey the stuff waiting for you to see and feel. There’s so much you haven’t experienced yet and the only way to find out is to stay. Honestly I stay sometimes just to see what wild thing happens next. You gotta stick around for season X—it’s not over yet.
I been the same since Feb 18 bro every day’s a grind
oh this got me in my feels. i’m going through a breakup rn too. we were all good and then boom breakup text blocked on everything. it’s been like 2.5 weeks now and i’ve finally stopped breaking down and screaming out loud. tbh it was only 2 months but we fell hard like i spent all my time talking to him or chilling on weekends and now it’s just... nothing. no calls, no texts, just complete silence. i had to use email to get my feelings out and ngl it helped me cuz if i didn’t i’d spiral even harder.
but for real once you get past this mess you’ll come out stronger and know exactly what to look for in the next one.
i got so bad i legit went to 6 advisors and 2 tarot readers and dropped $750 just to see if he’ll come back.
So like 2 weeks ago, I was in a pretty dark place. I've worked in mental health before, so I kept thinking about all the guys I'd known who tried and didn’t succeed, and I was telling myself why every idea I had wouldn’t work. On the worst day I was just taking it hour by hour thinking stuff like, I can’t right now I’ve got a meeting at 12.
That whole without her my life has no meaning vibe hit me hard though, and it made me see how much I was ignoring the other people and parts of my life that actually mattered. I was living only for her like she was my entire world and that wasn’t fair to everyone else who loves me.
Now I’m putting energy into building stronger relationships with my family and friends and doing little things for them. It’s helping me too like as a distraction and also to remind myself that I can make others happy without needing to be perfect all the time.