So yeah my girlfriend broke up with me after 2 years together. We were even planning to get married—parents were on board and everything. But this year things just went downhill. Before this she never really had an issue with my personality. I’m an introvert not the best at keeping long convos going but I can talk when I need to.
This year she started saying I sucked at communication. Like out of nowhere. Last year I made a dumb career mistake (not cheating or anything) owned up to it apologized and fixed it. But it kept being brought up in every argument. Fast forward to now, my career’s in a way better spot—I’m earning six figures—but then she started saying I was too into my work and not giving her enough time. I come from nothing so yeah my career’s huge for me. She also said I wasn’t emotionally there for her. I admitted my flaws and was legit working on them. Expressing my feelings has always been tough, but I was trying.
She’s a great person but it’s over now. I know I messed up but I was putting in the effort to change. Funny thing is she never mentioned these issues until recently. I even used to feel like she didn’t give me enough time, and when I brought it up it took her forever to work on it. But this time she wanted me to change overnight.
I never cheated. She was my everything—girlfriend, best friend all of it. Now that it’s done, I keep replaying moments and thinking of all the ways I could’ve done better. Meanwhile, she’s out here already telling people she’s single.
For months now I haven’t been sleeping or eating properly. I wake up at night stuck in my own thoughts. Sometimes I check her socials (I try not to, but yeah), and she’s out partying with friends and coworkers. To make it worse I hear they’re trashing me calling me a bad boyfriend. That hits hard.
I was ready to change for her. The only thing I ever wanted was more time from her. I wasn’t expressive enough and that’s on me but I was working on it. Meanwhile she’s out sharing her side with everyone, and I’ve just kept quiet. Now, I just feel lost.
Last updated on:2024-12-11T12:47:46+05:30
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Relationships are so whack
She probs should’ve stuck around longer and been more patient based on what you said. Maybe she wasn’t as open as she thought or waited too long to bring up her concerns. Or maybe she freaked out about marriage and wanted to feel like a priority first. Either way if you were trying to meet her needs and be more emotionally available, you did your part. She could’ve suggested couples therapy before dipping too.
Stay strong focus on your career and self-growth. Keep working on being emotionally available for your next relationship. Who knows, she might regret her choices but for now it’s all about taking care of you.