So, I’m 30 now and still haven’t hit that goal and honestly, I don’t even know if I ever will. It’s not like I haven’t put in the effort. The thing is, I keep getting into relationships with people who end up stabbing me in the back and leaving me. Like even if I try again, start dating and get into something serious trusting someone is gonna be so hard. How do I even know they won’t cheat or dip out for no reason? How do I know they actually mean what they say?
My ex had me thinking everything was good—we talked about love the future even marriage someday. Then out of nowhere I’m blocked on everything, and she’s back on dating apps. It messes me up because when I say those things I’m for real. I trusted that she meant it too. For me it would’ve taken something huge, like cheating, abuse, or lies, for me to walk away. Everything else can be worked through.
But now? I’m just feeling kinda hopeless about it all.
Last updated on:2024-12-11T13:48:33+05:30
Comments (6)
Don't rush the healing process. Take your time to grieve and move on.
Don't isolate yourself. Connect with friends and family.
It's okay to feel hurt. Allow yourself to feel your emotions.
I'm 27 single, no kids, not married, but got a lot of exes and some toxic past relationships. Been through a lot of therapy so I got some advice.
First thing figure out why your relationships haven't worked. Why you keep picking the wrong people. You’ve probably got some trauma you need to heal before anything. Work on yourself so you don't keep falling into the same pattern.
Only then should you think about getting into a relationship again.
You gotta love yourself before loving anyone else.
I get it. I’m 30 now single again and just got dumped for the second time. Doesn’t sound like much but I’ve only been in 3 relationships ever and they were all long-term.
Turning 31 in two weeks. My girl stopped hitting me up after we argued months ago so yeah, that’s probably done. Couple years back my years marriage ended. Before that I had a long-term thing in college. None of my relationships ever seem to work. I keep picking the wrong people and it’s my heart that takes the L every time.