I get that it’s normal to feel a little off after a first date but this feels different. For context we had an amazing first date after talking for a couple weeks and vibing hard. We have so many niche things in common it almost feels like we were bound to meet in a small town like ours.
She made it super clear she was into me right away on Tinder she started the convo planned everything and even upgraded the date to include food. She’s the one who asked me out said she wants to see me again and was already hyping up what we could do next time.
A few hours after the date I texted her to see if she’d wanna hang out again and she was all in. But since then it’s been kind of quiet. she’s still replying when I text her (multiple times over the past two days) but the energy’s just... not the same. She’s a bad texter though even when she was super into me so I guess this isn’t totally new.
I feel kinda weird for being so in my head about this. I know there’s some anxious attachment going on but it feels like I’m dealing with the fallout of a breakup not just a first date. My vibe’s way off my brain’s spiraling and I can’t focus on anything.
She doesn’t seem to love compliments and kinda brushes off cute talk in texts but at the same time she’ll hype me up and tell me I’m too nice. She’s clearly into me but maybe she’s avoidant? Her energy feels inconsistent.
Maybe it’s just that the connection was that strong or maybe I’m just catching feelings too fast. Either way she’s so my type it’s unreal.
Last updated on:2025-01-03T18:01:48+05:30
Comments (7)
I kinda feel like you might’ve been dealing with a love bomber. Why tho?
She’s super careful about taking any of it (like compliments n stuff) from you but throws it around herself a lot.
She’s slow to reply giving off hot n cold vibes that mess w your head classic lovebomber move.
From the jump she’s been the one driving all the contact which is like textbook lovebomber behavior to make you feel extra special compatible and like a perfect match.
Sorry to lay it out like this but just saying your strong reaction after such a short time might mean manipulation or some kinda sick game. Just think it over
She wasn’t all about the compliments like she’d just say I looked cute a few times. I actually tested it over Christmas by sending her some selfies and she didn’t really hype me up just commented on the vibe of the selfie or the joke.
But yeah she came on pretty strong though I honestly think her interest was legit.
If you’re really into her your feelings aren’t weird at all. Usually if two people vibe they wanna talk and hang out ASAP. But sometimes one person’s not moving at the same pace and it could be for a bunch of reasons they’re super busy not into texting maybe not as into you testing the waters playing hard to get or even being nice but not wanting more and just ghosting. It’s a whole range of possibilities.
She said she wants to see you again so chill with the expectations. Sounds like the next date’s gonna happen soon enough. Just assume it’s on and hit her up in a day or two to figure out plans. Be confident not clingy nobody’s into that energy. You’re good just keep it cool.
Appreciate you saying that. I was so caught up in how much effort she put into showing interest in me on her own it felt like a sign kinda like choose someone who chooses you. Guess I might’ve been living in a bit of a fantasy but I really like her. We have so many shared interests which feels so rare.
But like how do I even respond to this? How do I figure out if she’s playing games or not? And if she is is it to get me to chase or to test my confidence by holding back? Or maybe that’s just me overthinking and she’s actually not interested even though her actions said otherwise?
What you said about insecurities hit though. She literally said she wants to see me again. My plan was to ask her tonight but she hasn’t replied all day so I’m not trying to double text. Confident man energy not desperate boy vibes I’ll stick to that advice.
@LouxsyLL Why not just call her? Everyone's always texting these days it's so annoying.
@Dallas You're right but feels kinda intense outta nowhere especially since I'm overthinking it might be her not really vibing with it.
@LouxsyLL So what if she’s not into it? You’ll find out real quick. But if she is into it she’ll be hype to hear from you. Just call. Either way no more overthinking.
If she hit you up right now wouldn’t you be stoked? Exactly. It works both ways.
When I went out with my GF for our first date I called her the next day late super casual. We ended up going on a second date the very next night. Totally unplanned just last minute vibes. I liked her so I didn’t stress it. If she was interested she’d be happy to hear from me and know I was into her too.