Hey y’all just wanna share a little hope with you.
I was in this year long relationship with an amazing girl. We’d talk about getting married super hyped about it then boom one day outta nowhere she broke up with me. It was soul-crushing. I’d never felt pain like that. For three months I was deep in a pit of depression like even the easiest stuff felt impossible. But over time I’m finally starting to heal and weirdly enough I’m even thankful for the breakup.
It’s wild how your perspective shifts. Looking back even though I loved my ex I wasn’t actually happy. Sounds weird, but yeah you can fall in love with the wrong person. I was so focused on her feelings and what she wanted that I totally ignored myself. If I’d had more self confidence back then I probably would’ve ended it way sooner.
Last updated on:2025-01-10T12:06:11+05:30
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Hey thanks for sharing your story. Kinda wild how many guys keep saying "out of the blue." Same thing happened to me a couple weeks back everything felt solid lots of plans sweet gestures, all that. Then boom out of nowhere they go cold and end it.
Do you think it’s like they’ve got someone else lined up? I keep seeing this pattern in posts and my own experience and I’m just wondering why someone flips the switch so hard when we didn’t even trigger it.
I get that some people are just loyal to their feelings not the person. Like they loved how they felt about us at one point but when that vibe changes whether it’s life friends or someone else they start feeling different around you.
Anyway I really appreciate your positive outlook. That line about falling for the wrong person hit hard. It’s true though no matter how sweet they seemed if they could drop you so easily they weren’t the right one. The right person would be in it enough to actually work through stuff. Hope you keep healing and leveling up from here.
This comment’s spot on. I think most of the time if someone’s a decent person they’re not lining up another guy. Sure they might’ve thought about other options but probably nothing serious. If they didn’t think there were better options they wouldn’t have roken up with you in the first place.
People are just loyal to their emotions not the person facts. You really need balance here. A partner isn’t gonna make you feel amazing 24/7 (but they should most of the time). Relationships will have hard times and some people dip when it gets tough. The right person will see something’s off and actually try to fix it. They’ll care enough to be real with you and work on it. In my case either they didn’t love me enough to say how they felt or they just didn’t know how to communicate their feelings.