I’m 24F. Back in college when I was 16 I started dating my best friend. We were tight but then we went to different unis and he cheated. Not just once but multiple times. I forgave him over and over till he dumped me saying he couldn’t marry me. I had no words. A few months later I found out he was dating someone else at the same time as me.
After that trust? Gone. Then I met this guy 25M. He was a senior at my uni but kept dropping semesters so he was a year behind me. I made it clear upfront I wanted something serious. No playing around. If we were dating it had to lead to marriage. He said yes and asked me to marry him not officially but wanted 14 months to get a good job and talk to my dad. Cool I thought.
A month in I caught him flirting with a junior. Given my history my trust issues went crazy. I was done. But he begged me to stay cried everything. So I stayed. Over time I realized he was all words he knew how to say the right things but didn’t back them up. He dropped out didn’t land a solid job. Still I fell for him hard. He told me his mom needed to approve and I respected that.
Fast forward 18 months I asked what’s the plan. He said he’d ask his mom. A while later he came back saying she didn’t agree. So I ended it.
That’s when things went downhill. I couldn’t go a second without thinking about him. I’d call him daily crying my heart out. For two weeks straight I called he didn’t. Then I stopped. That’s when he started calling me every day and somehow we got close again.
Last week I found out he was talking to a high school girl during the time I was calling and he ignored me. I confronted him and he admitted it but said it wasn’t serious. I asked to see the chats but he refused saying it’d only hurt me more.
I was crushed so I called his mom. She told me straight up Why are you with him? He’s nothing. You’re a graduate you can do better. I’d never let him marry you it’d ruin your life. I thought she’d scold him but nope she didn’t say a thing. Turns out his family sees him as their ATM. They won’t hold him accountable for anything.
Now I’m stuck. I miss him like crazy even though I know I shouldn’t. I told myself I wouldn’t call him but I want to. I want to hear his voice. I feel so lost and it’s making me think dark thoughts. I don’t know what to do. I love him but I feel like I’m breaking. What do I do??
Last updated on:2025-01-15T18:12:55+05:30
Comments (6)
He's playing you. Don't let him back in.
This is a toxic cycle. You need to break free.
You deserve someone who treats you with respect.
He's not worth your tears. Focus on yourself.
His mom sounds wise. Listen to her
He sounds like a total mess. Don't waste another second on him.