Something about the holidays and New Year just makes some relationships fall apart. My last two long term relationships ended around Christmas. I think it’s cuz people wanna leave what’s not working in the past and move on. The last time this happened to me was Christmas 2020.
That day my boyfriend of three years (32) dumped me (30) out of nowhere. He said he didn’t wanna move in with me anymore even though we had plans for a new apartment. He wrote me a 4page letter about how guilty he felt said he loved me but didn’t see a future together. It was soul crushing.
I know a lot of y’all might be going into the holidays in similar situations. Just know you’re not alone and you’ll get through this.
Fast forward 4 years I’ve been married for 2 moved to Europe learned a new language and built a life I couldn’t have imagined when I was with my ex.
Last updated on:2025-01-17T15:45:20+05:30
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I hope I can find a path like yours. I got dumped in September was planning to marry next year. She left me completely wrecked. I just want someone who will love me no matter what. I love hard... why can’t I get that back?
Halloween, Thanksgiving and now Christmas have been nightmares. We used to throw a Halloween party every year... wasn’t even invited this time. Thanksgiving used to be us at her brother's place eating and gaming... couldn’t go this year. Christmas is gonna hit different without her without waking up with her and making tea and opening gifts. She already has a new boyfriend and says she’s madly in love so she’s good while I’ll probably just try to sleep through the day to avoid the pain.
I’ve been there. Breakups have all these tough milestones... holidays without your person feel empty like what’s the point. The seasons changing hit different too watching people move on while you’re stuck. It’s a harsh reminder that your person is slipping further away. It hurts like it’s physical. The idea of dating again feels impossible. Can’t even imagine getting close to what you had.
In my relationship I think I built up this image of my ex that wasn’t real. Over time resentment grew and I started seeing the breakup as something that happened to me not ‘I wasn’t good enough. I kept track of all the off feelings in my notes app used it to pull myself out of the heartbreak over time and to help me look for better. Went through a lot of therapy a lot of solo time and eventually realized I deserved better. You deserve better too.
I still grieve that version of me crying on the kitchen floor begging for answers. I didn’t deserve that. Still feel that anger and pain from the heartbreak.
I think I’m about to break up with my girl and honestly been crying a lot
Thanks for this really needed to hear it 💙
Yeah my relationship ended days ago... I had gifts ready for her and was hyped to spend next week together but guess that ain’t happening now