So I (M33) haven’t exactly had the best luck with relationships

So I (M33) haven’t exactly had the best luck with relationships. Had a few long term ones but always end up getting ghosted for someone else and dating has been super hit or miss. I matched with this girl on Hinge right after Christmas last year and we totally vibed. we were messaging non-stop and after about a week we decided to meet up. When we did it was literally the same energy as online—super chill and fun. She even kissed me when she left. To give some context, she’d been single for like 2 years and I’d been single for about 5 months so I was kinda hesitant to dive into anything serious. But we kept hanging out and everything was going pretty well. After a while we agreed to make it official. Months went by everything was smooth she seemed really into me and it was a solid easy time.
But around 6-7 months in things started shifting. She wasn’t as intimate her sex drive dropped and it just wasn’t the same. She got the coil (birth control) around that time so idk if that changed her mood or what. She was also super stressed with buying her first house and work stuff so I wasn’t sure what was going on. About 8 months in I met her best friend and her partner for the first time and they absolutely loved me. Her friend was saying how happy I was making her and how nervous she was to meet me based on all the good things she’d heard. We all went back to my girl’s place late got pretty drunk and she started talking openly about some stuff with her friend bringing up old memories she probably shouldn’t have. I gave her the I’m heading to bed sign and she followed me upstairs. That’s when she drunkenly said that she’d had some kind of talk with her sister and I was just a test for her and how her sex drive was low and she was having doubts about us. The next morning I asked her about it and she kinda brushed it off as a drunk rant and said nothing was wrong so I believed her.
A couple months went by and things seemed good? Not the same as before but she was still happy making plans and talking about me potentially moving in. Then one weekend she went to her sister’s and I just knew something was off. She barely messaged me stopped saying I love you at night and it felt different. The next week still the same vibe so I called her and asked if we were good or if she was about to break up with me. She told me she hadn’t been feeling it for a couple of months and talking to her sister made her realize she didn’t want to be with me anymore. We had this long crying convo but she didn’t give me an actual reason other than I’m just not feeling it. We agreed to meet up the next day to talk in person and it was the same convo. She kept saying how great I am how sorry she is and that I deserve better but never gave me a solid reason for the breakup. She swore there was no one else but I can’t help but feel doubtful you know?
It’s been about 2 months now and we haven’t talked since the breakup but I can’t stop thinking about her. I thought I was doing everything right and still I ended up getting my heart broken. In my head she’s probably not even thinking about me anymore. After all my past relationship stuff I really thought I’d found someone and it’s just been such a kick in the gut.

Last updated on:2025-01-21T17:52:41+05:30