so i was in a relationship with one of my classmates. i studied cse and there were only 7 girls and 37 boys in the batch. i stayed in a bachelor mess with some of my batchmates. after like 10 months of studying there one of the girls in my batch told me she liked me and we started dating. funny thing it was my birthday when this happened. my friends made me a cake with help from another classmate but my gf got mad and said i couldn’t cut the cake bcs another girl was involved. so yeah i ended up going home that night.
she would always tell me i couldn’t talk to other girls at all bcs it would hurt her. she couldn’t even imagine another girl around me. i stopped talking to every girl even my best friend from the start of uni, bcs she said i had to. but she said she needed male friends to survive in uni and she had a male best friend who was always with her, taking care of her and looking at her differently. i told her it bothered me but she always had excuses saying there weren’t enough girls to vibe with.
she’d talk to guys let them flirt touch her etc. and told me it was normal. but if i even talked to another girl about studies she’d lose it and call me a cheater. she also didn’t like me hanging out with my roommates much. she took my fb password but never gave hers when i asked.
this went on for 9 months and eventually we broke up. she said she’d stay friends but even now she messes with me. like, when i’m happy, she brings up stuff about how i don’t love her and ruins my mood. in group settings she purposely gets close to other guys to make me jealous and every time i try to move on she pulls me back. she still makes me attend events with her so she can have fun with her guy friends while i just sit there. but if i even try talking to another girl she makes it a big deal and says i’m moving on too fast.
idk it feels like she’s playing games with me. i can’t stop thinking about her and on campus i keep looking for her wondering what she’s doing. how do i move on? how can i focus on my life?
Last updated on:2025-01-24T18:00:32+05:30
Comments (6)
Cut all contact with her.Go no-contact ASAP.
You deserve so much better. Seriously someone who respects you.
She sounds super insecure. That's not your problem.
She was gaslighting you hard. Don't let her manipulate you.
That was a major power imbalance. You were basically her prisoner.
Bro major red flags. That whole situation was a mess.