I (M27) need some advice on a breakup I’m struggling with.
So me and my ex (F23) were together for 2 years and broke up for the first time in early Dec 2024. That month was a mess—like on and off 4 times and we ended things for good on New Year's Eve. Every time we tried to get back together I thought we were making progress but it always fell apart.
During that time I found out she went on two dates with her best friend (TF24) who’d been leaning on her a lot emotionally after their own breakup a couple months earlier. She told me she had no feelings for them, that the dates were horrible and it was just her trying to get over me. At that point it seemed like I was still her priority but everything just kept falling apart.
One moment that sticks with me the most was when she called me during one of those 36 Questions to Fall in Love things. She wanted to reconnect and asked me the same questions we did on our first date. She asked me What’s your biggest regret if you were to die right now? I realized my biggest regret was not proposing to her when I had the chance so I asked her then and there and she said yes. For a sec it felt like we were on the same page again.
But the very next day she broke up with me again right after talking to her best friend.
Now here’s the kicker within two weeks of breaking up, she’s dating that same best friend. The same person who was telling her to leave me all through December.
So my question is: how likely is it that their relationship is gonna last?
From where I’m standing it feels like a rebound. She went from saying she had no feelings for them and that the dates were awful to suddenly being in a full-on relationship with them. Given that her best friend was dealing with some heavy stuff (like being suicidal after their own breakup) it feels more like an emotional connection than a real one based on compatibility.
But I’m probably not the most objective person here. Anyone been through something similar and how did it end up? Do relationships that start like this actually last?
Would love some insights or advice. Appreciate it!
Last updated on:2025-02-03T14:43:51+05:30
Comments (7)
You're better off without her drama.
Move on and find someone who values you.
This is a lesson learned. Don't let this happen again.
She's probably not over her best friend. This is just a distraction.
Don't let her back in. You'll only get hurt again.
This is toxic. Get out of this situation.
She was probably using you. To get over her best friend.
That's a whole mess. You deserve better than this.