It's been 8 months since he just dropped me and ghosted after 10 years together and I'm still a mess. He got married today to some girl in China he barely knows and I saw the wedding pics.
He totally ignored my calls for closure and broke up with me over text. Every time I tried to reach out he blocked me. He left me when I needed him the most no support just me alone. I honestly don’t think I’ll ever move on I’m completely wrecked from all the emotional abuse and the future I thought we had. I’ve got severe depression and it's been hard to keep going. Why couldn’t he just give me closure? How am I even supposed to heal from this?
Last updated on:2025-02-03T17:51:27+05:30
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sorry you're going through that i’ve been there too. but you gotta realize they're gone for good and it’ll get better. focus on yourself and moving on. just remember you dodged a major bullet with someone like him. find stuff that makes you happy and put time into it i bought a guitar and learned to play. trust me it’ll hurt less with time
idk how people can just ghost someone and vanish after years together like that
He's her problem now honey. He ain't a good guy. You don't see it yet but you dodged a bullet. You'll get it when you're in a real loving relationship one day.
Every second you spend stressing over him is keeping the one you’re meant to be with from showing up.
never just have one person in your life it’s unhealthy… get some counseling
I know this might sound harsh but I mean it in the best way possible. He’s married to someone else now the closure’s as closed as it can get at this point
Just ghost them. Don’t let them hear from you again don’t let them know where you’re at what you’re up to who you’re with or where life’s taking you. Nothing. Be dead to them and let them be dead to you too.
Imagine being stuck with a guy like that for life... you're lucky it wasn't you. I know it might not help but it's true.
when you’ve spent so much time with someone and they act like that be glad you’re free of them! sounds like it’s time to focus on getting yourself back together. he’s not your problem anymore. just do your best to make this next chapter better
holy shit
You ain't getting closure from the one who caused the pain. Sorry but that’s not how it works.
Feel all your feels. Cry scream,punch a pillow. Then you gotta let it go. Ask yourself what are you really losing? A whole ass clown
If you don’t think you can deal with your grief alone get some pro help.
I'm sorry boo
you’ll find someone who actually gets you and loves you the way you need. this guy clearly didn’t. i’m sorry you gotta go through this but just know you’re not alone. we’re all a bunch of wounded souls out here but we’re gonna be okay someday. trust me just keep going no matter what
Feel bad for her she’s gonna go through what you did. If he was that far gone that he didn’t even stop to see the damage he caused, he’s not magically gonna be better for someone new. If change was in him, you would’ve seen it whether he wanted to be with you or not. At the very least he would’ve been honest wished you well. People who are actually broken and wanna change? They try to make things right. They don’t just sit in the dark and say f*ck it to everyone they hurt. The ones who don’t really wanna change just keep cycling through new people. You’re not missing out. If anything he did you a favor set you free from the nightmare.
That being said you’re something special. You’ve got this rare gift seeing diamonds in the dark loving people even when they’re wounded. It’s both a blessing and a curse. But at the end of the day you hold more power than he ever will and deep down? He probably knows it. So take all that love you’re so ready to give and turn it inward this time. It’s gonna feel weird at first but trust me you gotta pour that energy into yourself. You deserve all that love you’ve been wasting on his memory. Start planting in your own garden love.
I really felt this even tho it’s not for me fr thanks for sharing and OP it might not feel like it rn but you’ll def get through this don’t be too hard on yourself
You’re not gonna get closure from him. That’s something you gotta give yourself. Simple but mad difficult.
You might have a million questions you wanna ask but like… what are you actually gonna do with those answers? Will they really change anything? At the end of the day, does knowing why actually fix anything?
For every Why? you have the only real answer is “because that’s just who he is.
You didn’t see him being this kinda person, didn’t expect it but that’s who he is.
And that’s not on you.
You didn’t cause it. You didn’t change him.
He’s the same person in his new relationship that he was in yours.
That’s just who he is.
He wasn’t who you needed him to be.
Once you really get that that’s when you find closure.