I (28M) was into this coworker (26F) but right when I started making a move she got serious with some guy she was seeing. First time I’m dealing with heartbreak while having to see the person every day and ngl it kinda sucks especially since avoiding her isn’t always an option.
Anyone who's been through this how do you handle daily contact without losing your mind?
Last updated on:2025-02-07T15:46:02+05:30
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Alright bestie let’s talk about this heartbreak over someone you never even dated. First off your feelings are valid fr but I’m gonna keep it real with you bc sometimes we need a little tough love to snap out of it. If you’re this heartbroken over someone you never had trust me it’s probably a good thing y’all didn’t end up together. And here’s why.
The hard truth? You’re not heartbroken over them you’re heartbroken over the idea of them. The version you built up in your head—the one who’s perfect who gets you who fits into your life like they were made for you—that person isn’t real. The real them has flaws baggage imperfections all of which you probably ignored bc you were too busy romanticizing. And let’s be real a relationship built on a fantasy is never gonna work. You don’t want an illusion you want something real. And real love means seeing someone for who they actually are not who you wish they could be.
Here’s another hard pill to swallow. This isn’t just about them it’s about you. It’s about the parts of yourself that feel incomplete the voids you’re hoping they’d fill. Maybe they made you feel safe maybe they were exciting maybe they gave you validation. But listen no one can fix that for you. No relationship can make you whole if you’re not whole on your own. If you’re stuck crying over someone you never even dated that’s your sign to focus on yourself. Stop waiting for someone to complete you and start becoming the person you wanna be. No relationship no matter how good it seems will ever be enough if you don’t feel enough on your own.
And let’s talk about the imbalance here. If they were really your person the energy effort and interest would’ve been mutual. The fact that they didn’t choose you or couldn’t meet you where you’re at says everything you need to know. A one-sided thing is draining it makes you question your worth and leaves you feeling empty. You deserve someone who chooses you just as much as you choose them. Someone who sees you and puts in the effort. Anything less than that? You’re settling. And you deserve way better than that.
Now here’s the real talk. You’re wasting your energy. Every second you spend mourning a relationship that never happened is a second you’re not spending on yourself or the people who actually deserve your love. You’re holding onto something that was never yours which means you’re blocking yourself from what is meant for you. Let it go. I know it’s hard I know it hurts but staying stuck in this pain is only holding you back. You’re better than this. You’re stronger than this. And you deserve so much more than this.
At the end of the day this heartbreak is a lesson. It’s showing you what you want what you need and what you won’t settle for. It’s proof that you have the ability to love to hope to dream—and that’s beautiful. But it’s also a reminder that your love is a gift and it should only be given to someone who values it and gives it back. Don’t waste it on someone who doesn’t see it.
So here’s the move. Feel your feelings but don’t drown in them. Let this pain push you to grow to heal to become who you’re meant to be. Let it be the thing that leads you to the love you actually deserve—the real kind the mutual kind the kind that fulfills you. Because that love? It’s out there. And you won’t find it if you’re stuck on someone who was never yours in the first place. Let go. Move forward. The best is yet to come.
Yeah I totally get you this isn’t my first heartbreak or the first time it’s happened with someone I never even dated so I kinda know how it goes I was just hoping for more practical advice on how to handle seeing them every day at work cuz in all my past breakups I just cut contact and that made it way easier
@Ableworn No offense but I don’t really see your heartbreak as legit. You weren’t in a relationship with this person, and you don’t really know them well enough to be this heartbroken. The pain you’re feeling is more about not getting what you wanted—a shot with someone who’s now seeing someone else.
First off just accept that everything’s gonna be okay. Second, set a rule for yourself don’t date at work. It saves you a ton of drama. Ever heard don’t shit where you eat? Work is for working, not for getting caught up in messy situationships. Tbh dating a coworker is one of those mistakes you learn not to make when you’re younger.
You’ll be fine. If you met someone new and built something real in six months you’d look back and realize how wild it was to even want a chance with that other girl.
At the end of the day life’s too short to be hurting over things that were never ours to begin with.
@LoveLG pretty sure this is the heartbreak thread not the breakup thread but ok lol I've been through enough of both to know my own feelings so I really don’t care what you think is legit or not like you don’t even have all the details I didn’t even say what happened between me and this person I just wanted some advice on how to handle it better but instead I just got judged so yeah thanks for nothing
@mumpit12 Guess with that logic Bills fans could totally take over the heartbreak thread after another L to the Chiefs
And no worries happy to help!