guys no clue why i’m even making this post but i just need to vent. so i’m 19M and my ex is 18F. we were together for 6 months fell hard and fast. i had a first love before but this girl? loved her way more.
first two months were amazing everything felt perfect. then she cheated on me w multiple guys at a party i couldn’t go to. hid it from me too. i found out the next morning on her phone. that broke me so i distanced myself for 2 weeks and impulsively booked a flight overseas. we started talking again got back together for a month and she even joined me overseas. felt like we were back to the start love was crazy strong.
then she went back home while i kept traveling for 2 more months. we tried to make it work was tough but we managed. then 5 days before i’m supposed to come back she goes to a party w her friends. her best friend invites some guys from another country. they all hang out hit the spa after and she’s not replying to me. i start freaking out bc of our history. that night she finally picks up and dumps me. next day? she’s at a festival w them, doing drugs, ignoring me. next day? same thing, but at the beach. i struggle w mental health so dealing w this while alone in another country was brutal. tried calling her and her mom answered instead basically telling me she’s not responsible for me. turns out she didn’t cheat again, but she was flirting w one of the guys and admitted she would’ve made out w him if she had broken up w me in person first.
so i get home but her parents think i’m toxic bc of my mental breakdown and don’t want me near their house. that same night i see her at a bar, we break up but then she comes over and sleeps w me. today she asked to see a movie w me then bailed last minute. later i see her clubbing w her friends and she tells me she wants to go full no contact. couldn’t even look me in the eye.
i know i was dumb for trusting her again no need to tell me that i already get it. i just need advice or to hear what y’all would do. i feel so broken and unloved rn. appreciate anyone who read this fr.
Last updated on:2025-02-13T13:19:56+05:30
Comments (4)
No matter how much you vibe with someone you still deserve respect and trust in a relationship. This whole thing's been rough on your mental health and sometimes you just gotta step back from people who don’t really have your best interests at heart even if it sucks. Take time to heal put yourself first and surround yourself with people who actually care about you
Bro you’re young and all I’m hearing is she’s just bad news for you. You gotta get that. After she cheated, you should’ve never gone back. Trust was gone and you kept trying to fix something that was never gonna work with the way she thinks. She’d rather party than be with you. Honestly you’re lucky it was only 6 months. You deserve someone who actually wants to commit. Just keep grinding focus on your goals and do what makes you happy. The right girl will see you for who you are and wanna be with you. Stay up bro.
Best move is full no contact fr. Cut off all communication for at least a month longer if you can. I know it doesn’t feel like it rn but it will get better and this is gonna help a lot. Keep busy focus on yourself level up spend time with people who actually appreciate you. Feel your feelings, but don’t get stuck in them. Overthinking is a trap. First few days are gonna suck bad but after that it gets easier. One day you’ll realize you barely even thought about her. Healing is the goal and this is the only way.
Tx you