Me and my ex (25M, 23F) broke up 2 months ago after 1.5 years of dating. We just moved back home after living in NY for 2 years. It was her call she said she doesn’t love me anymore even though we were about to get married.
She still watches every single one of my Instagram stories. I unfollowed her and removed her from my followers a month after we broke up but she still manually checks my profile. At first I thought it was nothing but it’s been consistent.
I’ve gone through all the stages of postbreakup grief denial anger acceptance back to denial. I miss her like crazy but I refuse to reach out first because she ended things said she didn’t love me anymore. But still… she keeps lurking. I even added her back to Close Friends to show I’m open to talking but nothing from her.
What’s going on? Is it ego regret just curiosity? I feel stuck because if she really wanted to reconnect she would’ve hit me up right?
Had to write this to vent, and since we kinda live similar lives would love to hear some thoughts.
We went no contact right after the breakup.
Last updated on:2025-02-17T14:34:25+05:30
Comments (3)
You two were together for a while and it's been 2 months since you broke up. Even though she's saying she doesn't love you anymore I bet she still cares about you (that’s probs why she's lowkey stalking you).
You just broke up so she’s probably just watching your stories out of curiosity like seeing what you’re up to. There’s probably a bunch of reasons for it.
But if she wanted to hit you up she would’ve by now, or maybe she’ll do it later. Honestly good on you for not reaching out first. Sometimes you gotta fully dip for them to feel the weight of your absence.
Keep doing your thing you’ll be alright.
Thank you
It’s been hard and sometimes I feel like I’m a second away from just writing her but then I realize that if I do that it’ll just be the same shit all over again. I guess I still kinda hope she reaches out but at the same time it’s dying bit by bit.
@Outsider If there's even a tiny chance things could work out the best move is to stay quiet.
Silence hits different.
Texting her just gives her validation... you need to let her fully feel the absence. She won’t get it unless you're 100% out of the picture.
Trust me I get how hard it is to fight the urge to reach out. But let her come to you. She ended things so it’s only fair. Plus, stay quiet cuz you respect yourself too much to beg for anyone’s attention.