I'm (20F) going through a breakup right now it's been 3 weeks so still pretty fresh. I really thought they were the one never had a connection like that with anyone else.
It's hard to see past the pain I keep wondering if I’ll ever find someone better. I'm still in touch with them (don’t come for me) and they seem fine without me. I feel like I’m spiraling and I know healing’s not linear but I just need some hope it won’t always feel like this.
I see posts about people still being in love with their ex years later and it kinda freaks me out 'cause I don’t wanna end up like that.
How long did it take for you to accept the breakup and move on? Did you find someone better? How do you stop fantasizing about losing "the one"?
Last updated on:2025-02-18T17:53:09+05:30
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You'll find someone better. Trust me.
Don't compare yourself to others. Everyone heals differently.
Healing takes time. Don't rush it.
There’s a lot of the ones out there it’s not about finding the one but about becoming the one. It's about finding someone who wants to keep trying and choosing you like you choose them in a healthy way tho. You gotta let yourself grieve too. I was destroyed. Took me year to get out of that funk. But you gotta let yourself feel it cry it out take a deep breath then focus on the next 5 minutes,the next half hour the next hour. Go for a walk hit up a park do things you like. Fall in love with yourself and figure out what makes you happy
I'd go no contact asap tbh. My breakup didn’t hit till we went no contact. It’s honestly the best way to move on.
I feel you I'm in that same headspace too. Like you’ve felt this connection that’s just been next level not being able to imagine anyone better really wanting them to be the one. And then seeing posts about people still hung up on someone for so long and being lowkey scared that’s gonna be you too. But trust me you’re not alone in this. This is like the classic heartbreak phase. It’ll get better though if you’re down to take the steps to move on. It sucks but honestly cutting them out for real is key. Out of sight out of mind right? I know it’s tough but it’s necessary. You gotta focus on yourself reclaim your worth do things that remind you of who you really are and spend time with people who love you for YOU.
Also if you’re caught up thinking no one else is as perfect as they are you’re probably putting them on a pedestal idealizing them. Something that helped me was making a pro and con list about them—like just seeing them as a person with both good and bad qualities just like anyone else.
Remember everything happens for a reason. Not everyone who comes into your life is meant to stay. Some people are just lessons or experiences to help you grow and get you closer to meeting the right person. Maybe this whole thing happened to put you in the right mindset for what’s coming next.
I swear if you take action and put in the effort to move on, it’ll get better with time. One day, you’ll look up and realize you didn’t even think about them the whole day. Even if at first it feels like nothing’s changing, trust me, it is. It just takes time, but once you notice you’re thinking about them less, or in a more neutral way, it’ll feel so freeing.