Hey y’all. So one night my bf (23M) was going through some stuff

Hey y’all. So one night my bf (23M) was going through some stuff. He got his results and was upset overthinking how he might take longer to graduate and since I’m older (27F) he was stressing about taking longer while I seem to be in a rush to get married have kids all that.
It’s something I’ve been worried about too (we’ve got a bunch of roadblocks before marriage age gap being just one of them but it’s not like it bothers me too much) and when he needed reassurance I failed to give him the love and care he needed at that moment.
The next day we talked and I apologized for not being there for him. I told him my glass was empty so I couldn’t pour into his cup but he said there’s a time and place for everything and I agreed. He hardly ever asks for reassurance (cause you know men), but I’ve always tried to give him the love and care without fail before.
We talked more and I told him after thinking it through it’s totally okay if he takes longer to graduate, and we don’t have to have kids right away. I chose him over the kids and I’m financially stable so he never has to worry about money. He said thanks but that the damage was already done. For the next few days I tried to show him all my love to make up for it but I could feel the distance, and my one mistake had already left its mark. I wrote him letters pouring my heart out but it didn’t really change anything.
He loves me most when I care for him and this hit him hard making his walls go up again. I gave him space for about a week and he said he missed me and still wanted me in his life willing to try to get back to how things were. For a few days it seemed like we were back to normal but I could tell he only said I love you because we always do at the end of the day. Eventually I started feeling like the difference between us was hurting me so I kept going back to texts where he’d shower me with love and felt nothing but regret.
I ended up telling him maybe it’s best we pause what we have cause it was hurting me and I didn’t want him to force himself to love me. I asked for his thoughts and he agreed. I told him I wish we didn’t have to do this and he said the same.
This breaks my heart cause of one mistake I feel like I lost the best thing that could’ve ever happened to me. I’m honestly devastated. Should we just stop being friends? I love and miss him so much.

Last updated on:2025-02-20T14:35:05+05:30