I messed up in the relationship crossed some lines and now she’s stuck trying to figure out what to do. It’s been a week of her thinking and I’m trying to stay positive but honestly I’m starting to think about ending it myself. She was my first love we were so good together so happy just a week ago. It hurts cause I really thought we could get through anything I’d forgive her for anything except cheating. I’m not perfect I’ve messed up, but how could she forget all the good times we had? We’re still in love and get along so well. I don’t get why she’d throw this away when it’s obvious we could be happy together. Feels like she gave up too easily. Now I’m just waiting for her to decide even though I feel like I already know what her choice will be. When it’s all over will she miss me? Can she really live without me when just a week ago she was saying she couldn’t imagine life without me?
Last updated on:2025-02-24T13:02:55+05:30
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It kinda depends on which boundaries you crossed but you never really mentioned that.
Boundaries are different for everyone they’re there to protect us from stuff that’s hurtus before or we’ve seen hurt others.
If yu broke those boundaries, especially if they were clear it’s a massive trust violation. Once that happens it’s so hard to fix.
did you lie? If so how’s she supposed to know what’s real now? Just because you said it? How’s she supposed to trust that isn’t a lie too? If you lied about X what about Y and Z?
Just throwing that out there as an example.
Look I’ve been in your girl’s shoes before (it’s honestly wild how similar my situation was) and if she’s made up her mind, she’s made up her mind. She’s either thinking of giving you one last shot or choosing herself and respecting her needs.
If this is the first time you’ve crossed her boundaries and she’s thinking about giving you another chance you gotta change. A last chance is a last chance. No, she’s not gonna just remember all the good times, she’s probably hurt when she looks at you because you crossed the line.
For her it might honestly be better to be alone than be disrespected all the time. No respect no relationship just dragging each other down and staying in pain.
And honestly, it’s probably better for you too if you’re not with someone whose boundaries you can’t respect. Maybe you need someone who’s more chill with this stuff. Even if you love each other, maybe you’re just not vibing in the same way. In relationships love isn’t always enough as sad as that sounds. If needs aren’t met it won’t work. It sucks but it happens.
If she decides to break up with you it’s gonna hurt, no doubt. It’ll hurt you it’ll hurt her. She’ll miss you you’ll miss her. But trust it’ll pass. Give it time and you’ll grow from it.
kinda going through the same. he said he needs to analyse whether he wants to go ahead or not. I actually asked him to do bare minimum in a relationship and he freaked out. he insisted on keeping talking but I don't know what to do exactly. wait or move on