last year I met this guy on a dating app. I’ve talked to a decent amount of guys but honestly nothing ever really went anywhere. I was in this phase where I was super chill being single but also open to putting myself out there. Anyway we hit it off in a way I never expected. The connection was mad like I’d never felt that before. Conversations were easy and the physical chemistry just felt so right. So yeah we ended up sleeping together.
The whole thing was confusing though. Took me a minute to realize how much I actually liked him. I’ve been hurt before so I was holding back from my feelings. Eventually I asked him the what are we question and he said while he liked me he wasn’t at a point where he could give me the relationship I wanted. I was heartbroken cried in his arms and he comforted me which only made me fall even harder. Like a hopeless idiot I told him if he still wanted to see me I was down.
So we kept seeing each other but over time I started feeling him pull away. I think he was avoidant. Once I told him how I felt he distanced himself more then eventually ghosted me. We stayed mutuals on social media and I saw this pic he posted of dinner looking like he was with a girl. I freaked out and texted him calling him a liar. He said he was sorry I felt that way but everything he told me was the truth. That was the last time we talked and it’s been almost half a year since then.
I still can’t get over him. He wasn’t my first love or heartbreak but he’s definitely been the hardest to shake. I’ve seen and slept with other guys since, but nothing worked out for different reasons. Yet at the end of every day he’s still the one I think about. I’ve stopped crying over him and I go through my days just fine with my friends and family. But he’s always on my mind. The talks the touch the memories. I just wanna see him again.
Even though I’ve completely removed him from my life that feeling doesn’t go away. I haven’t read a single message from him since we ended things. But I still can’t forget him. Some nights when the memories and longing hit hardest, I literally fight myself not to reach out. I regret things from our relationship. I liked him so much that I was scared and even though I missed him I never called or planned dates because of it. I wish I’d been braver but now it’s too late.
I don’t know how to get over these feelings. The longing, the regrets the memories. He’s the only person I’ve felt this strongly about. Everyone says time heals but it’s been months and I still can’t shake it. I’m not acting on these feelings but I can’t get rid of them. I really miss him. And honestly I just still like him so much.
Last updated on:2025-02-24T17:03:25+05:30
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If you haven’t already you gotta delete his socials and block him so you don’t keep reaching out, otherwise you won’t be able to let go and move on. The hard truth is he didn’t want a relationship with you and that future you imagined with him wasn’t gonna happen. It sucks when someone’s everything you want but you can’t have them. I’m really sorry you’re going through this sounds like you need more time to heal, everyone takes different amounts of time to get over something like this.
This hit me hard 💔😭
Your story about how you met and the early stages of your situation really hit different for me.
I met m person on a dating app. We were on different pages I wanted something serious but she wasn’t looking for that. I kinda convinced her to go with the flow, but deep down I always knew, and to be real with you she made it clear it wasn’t a forever thing. Three years later and we’ve split. I always knew this would happen but damn, I would’ve walked through fire for her. I still would. I’d drop everything in a second to be there for her and honestly I’m scared I’m gonna end up like you stuck in this grief forever. I just miss her so much it’s like my heart physically hurts.
I feel you though, even when she was down to hang out for the occasional night I could never let her go. It was like an addiction. She was just perfect.