I’m just writing this to help myself process and maybe get some support from people who’ve been through something similar. I was dating my ex for the last 3 months. We were long distance 9-hour drive between us but it didn’t even feel like a big deal to me. We spent so much time on calls playing video games watching shows together. A lot of time on Discord watching Love is Blind Attack on Titan playing Catan and my personal fav Teamfight Tactics. The distance never really felt like an issue. He even drove down to visit me a couple times spending weekends together. The first time he drove down everything felt so natural. He even drove down for Valentine’s Day planned this super cute kayaking trip to which he knew I’d been dying to do.
I just moved to the Uk so I don’t have a license or a car yet but I was super excited to get my license so I could rent a car and visit him too. And then two days after he came down for Valentine’s he broke up with me. Everything seemed so good I just couldn’t wrap my head around what went wrong.
His reason? It was all just too exhausting for him. He liked me cared about me and wanted to do so much for me but he didn’t have the energy to keep up. The long drives and Discord calls that sometimes cut out were too much for him. He just wanted us to end things. I tried to understand that. But the way he went about breaking up with me really hurt.
So here’s the thing he drove back to his hometown on the 17th in the morning got there in the evening. He didn’t text me AT ALL after he got back. I was the one who reached out (which happened a lot). The whole 19th he was super off barely texting leaving me on delivered for hours. Then he asked to get on a call. We watched Attack on Titan played TFT. He even told me how pretty I was how much he missed me. And then at the end of the call as we were saying goodbye he broke up with me.
I’m so mad. Why couldn’t he just tell me straight up? Why drag it out like that?
Anyway I didn’t get to ask him any of these things. I’ve been thinking about writing him a final message to maybe get some answers but more as a way to say goodbye. Thanks for reading my rant (if you made it this far) and if anyone has any postbreakup rituals that helped them I’d love some ideas. Appreciate it.
Last updated on:2025-02-24T17:51:33+05:30
Comments (10)
He's giving I'm too lazy for feelings energy.
He's playing you like a Catan board.
leave him in your past.
Don't even bother with that final message he doesn't deserve it.
He's giving I can't commit energy.
what's with the emotional whiplash?
He's def giving mixed signals.
That's a whole nah from me.
He's playing games and you don't deserve that.
Ghosting then breakup? That's cold.