So about 6 months ago I (26M) ended a 5-year relationship with my ex (25F) cuz I was in a bad headspace. I was pretty selfish focused on my own goals and honestly just neglected the relationship. Looking back now I realized what actually mattered wasn’t my ambitions but her love and acceptance through all my BS. I’ve had a clearer mind and figured out a lot of where I went wrong. I’m not in love with the idea of her I’m in love with her. I’ve never been more sure about anything in my life never felt this way about anyone before. But it probs came too late. I instantly regretted breaking up but for the wrong reasons. I didn’t handle things wellspent the first month being super needy and desperate didn’t give her enough space. After that we barely talked but I got a couple messages from her including a Merry Christmas that I didn’t reply to. Last week I reached out to check in and we had a pretty chill convo quick replies no dry vibes. I ended with nice hearing from you talk soon and she said the same. Then today I texted her about a friend asking where she works and some more small talk and I ended with asking if she’d wanna grab coffee or drinks sometime. She said Maybe. I’ve been busy lately but maybe after work sometime. I said that works just let me know. She said will do have a good day and told me what she was up to today.
I know I was the toxic one and I get it’s not easy to rebuild trust or not worry about it turning toxic again.
So my question is do you think the maybe is legit or more of a polite no? I can’t stop overthinking it but like most heartbroken people this is all I care about. It’s probably not the healthiest mindset but I really miss her and want the best for her even if it’s not me. We were together for 5 years basically 7 counting everything. Feels like there has to be something left.
Last updated on:2025-02-27T16:51:08+05:30
Comments (10)
If she wanted a hard no she'd say it.
The maybe is a sliver of hope.
Maybe is basically the I'll think about it" of the dating world.
Rebuilding trust takes time like a lot of time. Be patient.
Toxic behavior? Not vibing. But you're trying to change that's what matters.
5 years is a long time. There's def some leftover feels.
Maybe after a busy excuse? Sounds like a soft no but could be a not right now
Ghosting the Christmas message? Big yikes. But you're trying to make amends.
You lowkey fumbled the bag ngl. But you're trying to fix it, respect.
maybe could go either way.
Don't read too much into it.
Maybe is the ultimate gray area.