I (20M) lowkey scared off this girl I was talking to cause of my anxious attachment issues. But the more I learn about her through friends social media and school the more I realize no one’s ever been more perfect for me. Now I basically lost the love of my life and there’s no way to fix it cause she straight up told me to never talk to her again. Either she was my soulmate and I fumbled or the whole idea of true love and finding your person is just BS.
Last updated on:2025-03-06T13:37:12+05:30
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try telling her how you feel there’s gotta be a way to reach out? btw the soulmate thing doesn’t need some outside force fate will pull you together eventually
okay so basically she got a no contact order from campus police no investigation no questions nothing they just pulled up to my dorm n told me it’s illegal to talk to her now
@mobackdu yo can I ask what made her do this? like it must’ve been something serious for her to make that move. btw do you guys have any mutual friend you trust?
@CallME Yeah we did and the girl who called the cops on me tried to get this friend to say I was gonna rape her but the friend wasn’t having it and refused to lie so now they’re not friends anymore
There is no such thing as fate.
Reaching out ain't the worst thing honestly. If she still wants space respect that but as long as you're not being creepy or crossing lines go ahead and share how you feel and maybe ask for another shot.
It’s tough when you feel all these strong emotions and then feel like you’ve lost your person like that alone is hard enough, but then toss in anxious attachment issues and it makes things even more complicated. If she asked for space or no contact gotta respect that and follow through. The best move is to work on your anxious attachment, figure out why it’s happening and find healthier ways to handle it next time.
As for the whole soulmate thing, that’s different for everyone so I won’t go too deep into it. But if anything changes in the future like she reaches out or you meet someone new just try to be the healthiest version of yourself. Especially for your own sake. Anxious attachments are the worst.
It’s been like a year and a half since she pulled that police stuff. I’d give anything to be the person I am now but back then.
@mobackdu There’s no such thing as just one person for you in this world… honestly it’d probably help if you stopped checking her socials