Me and my bf have been together for 5 years 4 of those living together. We fight at least once a month about cleaning even today on Valentine's Day. Every time we argue he threatens to break up and insults me. Today I had enough and threw it back at him so we ended up having this dumb awful fight over cleaning.
Apart from the fights he's literally perfect. We vibe on everything but I'm so over these childish pointless fights about cleaning. It’s frustrating and I can't deal with him insulting me every time we argue. I feel like I deserve better you know?
Should I break up? We're 30 no plans for marriage or kids but I want both tbh. I’m scared of not finding someone as good as him and being alone (he always threatens that) but honestly these constant fights are too much drama. I’m done.
Last updated on:2025-03-06T16:48:30+05:30
Comments (10)
He's not gonna change. Save yourself the energy.
You're not his mom. He needs to learn to clean.
Your mental health is more important than a clean apartment.
Dump him. You'll find someone who cleans AND respects you.
30 and still dealing with this? Nah you're too old for that
Girl you deserve peace not monthly cleaning wars.
Perfect except for the insults and threats? That's not perfect sis.
Leave if you need to. Speak your mind if nothing’s changing bounce if you can’t fix him or stop him from being toxic. Some might try to minimize it like at least it’s not this or that but it seems like you’re over the bs so switch it up love.
Five years and still fighting about cleaning? That's wild.
Threats and insults are straight-up abuse. Also if you're not on the same page about the future why even stay?