We were together for a year had our ups and downs. We both knew we had insecurities and at first communication was on point. I felt super connected to her and I made myself a big part of her life – like visiting every weekend treating her dogs like my own even taking her on some little getaways. But when the arguments started and the insecurities hit we could never get on the same page. She’d think I was attacking her and I never felt like she heard me out.
Fast forward a few months and we were stuck in this cycle of endless arguments. We’d try to fix it but never really got anywhere. If we did it never lasted.
Then one heated argument we broke up. Didn’t talk for a few days then we argued again. We went silent for two weeks then when we finally spoke I was still upset because she wouldn’t own her part in our problems. Of course we argued again. After 5 days I reached out we exchanged a couple of messages and I said I wanted to work it out. But she said she needs space that our relationship was unhealthy and she’s not going back to that. She still loves and cares for me but needs to focus on herself and I should focus on myself too.
It’s been almost two weeks since we last spoke and I feel stuck just waiting. Her Instagram still has pics of us she hasn’t blocked me or deleted me still follows all my family.
What should I do? How long do I hang on? I’m so hurt because even though this sounds bad we had some really good times too.
Last updated on:2025-04-20T16:44:09+05:30
Comments (8)
I think you should also give yourself some time to acknowledge everything and importantly what you really want, if being together only hurt and lead to even more arguments, i think you're closing a chance of someone better in the future, it's okay to be confused, not all things has to make sense, maybe she also haven't figured herself out yet, i wish you the best
You deserve someone who's all in. No half measures.
Don't hold onto false hope. It's a waste of energy.
Two weeks of silence? That's a red flag.
Space usually means it's over.
Ghosting after arguments? Not the vibe.
Sounds like a toxic loop. Been there low-key not fun.
this kinda happened to me recently... honestly, depending on where you're at in life focusing on yourself is probs the best move instead of putting all your energy into something that’s not really helping you right now. Who knows maybe in a few months you'll cross paths again once you've both done the work on yourselves. It's important to break those cycles in a relationship or it’ll just keep happening even if you get back together. You should hit her up and ask to talk since you're kinda in limbo but don’t expect too much to change. I think they just need more time.