I live in LA and was dating this Philip girl for six months. She ghosted me randomly after meeting my fam. She was insanely beautiful—like next-level pretty the kind of pretty where model scouts approach you on the streets of LA. But it wasn’t just her looks; she was introverted super genuine and I was her first guy so it felt even more special. A week after meeting my family she went to Philippine for a quick two-week trip then just blocked me with no explanation. It’s been messing with my head because I still can’t find anyone else that I’m into even though I’ve been on dating apps and get matches. It just feels like no one compares to her and that’s making it hard to move on.
I deleted everything the chats the pics all that. It helped a bit but honestly it didn’t change much. She’s still in my head and I keep comparing everyone to her.
I get matches I meet women and I even know people in the modeling industry. But here’s the thing: I’m not into models who are all deep in that world. My type is more introverted girls who aren’t surrounded by a ton of beautiful guys. Maybe that’s my insecurity but I’ve seen it happen with friends dating someone constantly getting attention from all these people just doesn’t work out. Plus from what I’ve seen models don’t seem to have the most stable dating lives and that’s not what I want.
What’s even more confusing is that I’ve been ghosted before by another girl who was also model level gorgeous but we only dated for like three weeks so it didn’t hit as hard. I actually saw her recently on a dating app but this time I wasn’t attracted to her at all. So I guess that’s progress. But now when I compare everyone to the Philip girl it’s like no one measures up and it’s making it hard to move on.
I’m in a better spot now more confident in better shape with more options. But no one’s catching my eye the way she did. Feels like I’m stuck even though I should have that abundance mindset.
So anyone got advice on how to start finding people attractive again and stop comparing everyone to her? I’m working on myself and trying to move forward but it’s tough. Appreciate any tips or perspectives.
Last updated on:2025-03-12T17:06:42+05:30
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Sorry you got ghosted that sucks but lowkey you sound kinda insecure maybe a little clingy and controlling could be wrong tho just something to think about for the future
i don’t think i’m controlling tbh i used to be super clingy and i’m sure i still can be sometimes without even noticing but maybe i’m wrong idk what made u think that i’m always down to improve tho appreciate the insight
My ex was (still is) the hottest guy I’ve ever seen and it’s been months since we broke up. In the beginning it messed with me so much I kept thinking I’d never find someone as attractive as him again. Just the thought of his face his hair everything made me cry.
But then I asked myself why am I so hung up on looks? Is it because his attractiveness somehow made me feel good about myself so I craved it? Or am I just kinda superficial caring too much about people’s appearances?
I’ve shifted my mindset now. Yeah,he looked amazing and ticked all the boxes but clearly his personality didn’t match up to that beauty. Like you he dipped when things got hard. Didn’t put up a fight just bailed same as your girl.
True beauty is in people’s looks sure but also in their actions their vibe. What she did to you? That’s ugly. But you’ll find someone who’s on your level.
For me I don’t want a model or someone like my ex anymore. I want real committed honest love. And whoever brings that to me will be the most beautiful person.
Thanks for the advice I get what you're saying. Looks shouldn't be the most important thing. But even though I'm after real love and partnership I still don't find anyone else attractive. Hopefully that'll change but we'll see in time...
@loveloser it will trust me you might not find someone as attractive as HER but you’ll def find some really attractive people. i’ve had a couple flings since the breakup and they didn’t come close to my ex but i was still super attracted to them. time will defs shift your perspective 100%
Her parents probs didn’t approve classic traditional vibes... it's messed up how she just ghosted you with no closure or explanation. You deserve someone who actually respects you. Don’t rush into dating if you’re not ready.
I never really thought about that tbh. But like whatever the reason I still got ghosted so idc.
And yeah you’re right about the rest appreciate the advice.
@loveloser You white? This was defs cultural.
@sed0125 I'm half white but kinda fair skinned like a white person with some foreign features (hair, eyes, lips, etc.)