I need some advice. So my girlfriend of 3 years (I’m 23 she’s 21) recently cheated on me. She got close with a coworker and they kissed in his car while she was drunk. She told me she touched his private area for a few seconds but says it felt wrong and wasn’t what she wanted. She also said she developed feelings for him and they slept in the same bed at an Airbnb with their coworkers but nothing happened. I’m really struggling with this and feel sick about it. I don’t know if I should try to forgive her or not. We’ve been together for a while and she’s never cheated before—been inseparable for the past 3 years living together and everything. We recently had coffee and talked about it and she feels awful like genuinely remorseful. She’s been there for me through a lot—my grandfather’s funeral my grandma passing and she even took care of me after knee surgery for 3 months. She has a good heart and really cares. I just feel lost about what the right move is. I believe in second chances (she’s given me them before when I messed up) and she’s promised to cut ties with this guy and work on herself which I hope she actually does. Just looking for some other perspective.
Last updated on:2025-03-18T17:33:53+05:30
Comments (14)
hey from your post it's seems quite clear that , she has made a genuine mistake and apart from this both of you have been really in it together.Though it's always a personal choice to give another chance to someone but really give yourself and her some time to process these emotions, even if it involves being away from each other for some time and if you really feel then a second chance in long term relationship isn't a bad choice necessarily
Leave her alone
hot take but if someone cheats in a long-term relationship i don’t think it’s always game over like ppl make it seem. if she came clean to you that says a lot abt her character and that it’s not rlly who she is. relationships are messy and feelings aren’t always black n white esp at ur age. if she feels bad n wants to fix things it’s totally ur call to forgive her. personally i’d at least hear them out if they cheated n told me themselves but they’d only get one more chance max
Break it off and find someone who's loyal and loves you the way you love her
You’re not gonna be happy with her anymore
Could you ever really trust her again if she goes out? Or sees him? Or if you just leave her alone?
She messed up the trust that’s on her her loss fr.
She capping bro
No do-overs
She gon’ do it again and worse
She don’t respect you
You can tell her you forgive her then block her ASAP and never look back fr.
You’re right thank you
sorry you’re going through this cheating sucks fr my take is don’t sell yourself short if someone’s torn between you and someone else just let them pick the other one tbh if they really loved you they wouldn’t have to choose in the first place
Move on she will cheat again.
if you’re cool with it then no need to stress over what others think you know your relationship better than anyone. some people deserve a second chance esp if you really love them. if you truly believe she’s a good person she’ll learn from this and won’t put herself in that situation again. just make sure she knows how much it hurt and that you’re not gonna tolerate cheating again so she understands that if it happens one more time it’s over
it’s tough and takes a lot from both sides but it’s doable. you gotta be open and kind cuz the hurt anger and disappointment will pop up again. she needs to be patient and understanding. how y’all handle that will either make your relationship stronger or show if it’s even worth keeping.
Please leave cut her off completely block and move on
cheating ain’t an accident bro. there were so many choices made before it even happened. she let that coworker see her as an option. she didn’t shut it down when he showed interest. she chose to be in his bed. she chose to drink around him. she chose to kiss him. she chose to touch him in ways she shouldn’t have. every move she made was a choice. if she feels bad, that just means she knows she messed up but it doesn’t undo what she did. feeling betrayed is 100% valid.
you can forgive her if you want, but trusting her the same way again? that’s probably not happening.