I (26F) got a friend (30M) I got feelings for.. and if this keeps going I’m prob gonna fall madly in love with him bc I already like him more n more as time goes on.. but instead of asking me for a relationship like I thought he would.. he hit me with the friends with benefits but maybe more later talk ?
I didn’t tell him how I feel but I did say no to fwb bc I can’t just casually sleep with someone I’m so connected to.. and he was like that connection is what makes sex good which lowkey feels manipulative n kinda hurtful.. like why does it have to start as fwb for there to be potential for more??
I was waiting to see him again so I could actually say how I feel even tho that might be the end of our friendship n all contact.. or do I just let this friendship fizzle out n hope my feelings fade too? I kinda wanna just text him everything bc neither of us has made plans to meet n I don’t wanna be the one to bring it up.. I feel like he’s backing off since I said no to fwb and he did say he wouldn’t stress me about it
I’m honestly shocked n upset.. like I get ppl want different things but this is a friend my other friends vouch for.. they always talk about how well he handles romantic situations so this just feels so disappointing.. I’ve had casual stuff before but I actually wanted something real with him
also as friends we talk about personal stuff n this time he kinda shut me down.. told me I overshare n not everyone deserves that from me.. also said he doesn’t tell anyone his problems.. which makes me feel like he’s just not into me like that n doesn’t really care.. and that’s what hurts the most
what would you do?
Last updated on:2025-03-20T12:46:18+05:30
Comments (6)
Text him everything. Get it off your chest.
Maybe more later is a lie. He's trying to keep you on the hook.
Connection makes sex good is manipulative AF. Run.
Dump him. You deserve better.
He's gaslighting you sis. Don't fall for it.
Let it fade