So I was in this short-term thing (3 months). At first we really vibed—both personality-wise and physically. It felt way better than the mess I dealt with in my last long-term relationship.
I brought up being exclusive after our third date. She took that as being in a full-on relationship which felt kinda fast but since things were going well I just went with it.
Then a month in she said I love you and ngl that freaked me out a little. Everything was moving so fast that it started feeling off to me.
Over time I noticed her energy shift. I get that life happens but it felt like her affection and communication were fading like I was putting in all the effort. When we were together she’d be on her phone a lot. I asked if we were good just based on her vibe and instead of talking it through she got defensive. I get that Are we okay? can be annoying if there’s no clear issue but she just seemed less into it and convos felt forced.
Then one day she posted a kinda provocative pic on her public story. I felt hurt and tried to talk about it but instead of a convo I got deflection guilt-tripping and somehow I was accused of calling her a slut—when I never even said that. She blamed me for ruining her day and straight-up blocked me.
That stung but at least now I know my place. Still I can’t stop wondering if any of this was even real? Like wtf actually happened? I was always open with her so she’d feel safe communicating if things weren’t working. But her actions never matched her words and that’s what hurts the most. We could have worked through it but now I feel like I was just a placeholder—someone to be with for convenience not because she really cared like I did.
Now I’m stuck between maybe she did have some feelings for me and my future partner would never do this to me. She even unblocked me a few days later so idk what that means.
I just feel like shit about myself my appearance my personality—everything. I know it’s not me but it still sucks feeling used. My head’s all over the place and I just wanna take a break from everything and reset.
I miss her but I don’t miss the way she disrespected me and how things played out.
Last updated on:2025-03-22T11:14:28+05:30
Comments (8)
she's going to reach back. prepare yourself for the tsunami.
I am so sorry but she was never there in it. She wasn't really invested in it but at the same time I can assure that though the moment feels shit but it is also an opportunity for you to really get out of this circle where anyone can come use so much guilt against us. When they are the ones who actually need to do the work or be true. Please feel free to share your pain with someone who really gives you warm hug and shoulder to rest your head on. Don't be too hard on yourself..
Placeholder energy is real. And it sucks.
She was moving way too fast. Sketchy.
Guilt-tripping is a manipulation tactic. Don't fall for it.
Are we okay? shouldn't be a trigger.
Communication is key.
She played you. Straight up.
Love bombing then dip? Classic red flag.