I need an outside take on this cuz it’s been messing with my head
Met this girl who basically pulled me outta my lil introvert bubble. Before her I was chill quiet kept to myself didn’t really need much. But she changed all that. Now I can’t go a day without thinking about her wanting to call or text her. I even catch myself having full convos with her in my head
We were mad close or at least that’s what I thought. We had that unspoken vibe mixed signals late-night talks… but nothing was ever straight up said. I had feelings but I wasn’t tryna make a move unless I knew for sure
Then outta nowhere things shifted. She got distant less calls ignored messages always busy when I hit her up. Started feeling like I was being played like I wasn’t a priority anymore
Even a mutual friend noticed and was like Y’all would be cute together. Made me wanna finally talk to her about it. But that same night… she hit me with I’m going on a date. That’s when I took a step back
We eventually talked about the weird distance and when I asked if anything changed she said nah she just thought she was annoying me by calling too much. Never told her how I felt so we “sorted it out. Then a few days later I see her snaps… with the guy she went on that date with. Now he’s her bf
Fast forward we talked again recently and mid-convo she just drops my bf’s about to call. I cut it short but she kept tryna keep it going. Said goodnight and distanced myself again. That hit way harder than I expected, had to hit the gym just to deal with it. That’s when it really clicked… I fell for her. Maybe even got lowkey obsessed
Now I can’t move on. I’m stuck between being mad sad and feeling like I gotta prove I’m fine. I even posted a quote knowing she’d see it but it still got to me. Every time I try to ghost I fold—she calls sends me reels of couple goals, makes sure we don’t lose our snap streak. And the way she posts about “how she wants her man to be is crazy cuz it’s literally describing me. The second I disappear for a day… she calls at night to check in
Am I losing it? Cuz I legit don’t know what to do anymore. Feel like I’m trapped in this loop and need help getting out
Last updated on:2025-03-21T16:10:23+05:30
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Meanwhile Focusing again on New People, places , activities literally rediscovering yourself and that will definitely benefit you
Buddy Please be Kind to yourself and tell her honestly about all this and that you need some distance from her.Not only will that make her realise your importance but also it's really unhealthy for both of you and during this No contact you can try and regather your life back. Don't let your obsessive mind get you on this. and please don't feel guilty in taking a stand for yourself and maintaining a healthy distance for sometime.Specially when your feelings are so out of Control, it will anyways not help both of you since she is also with someone
She's playing you like a fiddle. Don't let her.
She's keeping you as a backup.
Not cool.
Ghost her fr. She's playing games.
fr been there block is the only move bro
Tbh, best move is to just cut ties completely. Kinda feels like she just keeps you around cuz it's familiar or even worse just for the vibes when she's bored. If I were you, I'd just focus on my own stuff.