it's so weird how ppl never really let u feel ur feelings when ur tryna heal
and yeah unfortunately im still healing even after a year of no contact. as pathetic as i feel abt still getting waves of sadness i gotta acknowledge that getting led on n thinking someone loves u just for them to dip for the complete opposite of u is actually so traumatizing. and getting dumped over text abt it? even worse
but i feel like i always gotta be super chill abt everything when i talk to ppl like i’m just supposed to act like it didn’t even phase me. bc anytime i bring it up ppl hit me w the fuck him he’s a dick response and i feel like i get side eyed when i say how much it actually hurt. like bro i was so in love w that man i would’ve walked over hot coal for him and i really thought it was mutual. what happened completely changed me how i see love how i see men all of it. but if i actually say that ppl act like i got low self esteem n tell me to just get over it, de-center men move on. like yeah i know i deserve better but that shit hurt u know?? and i just wish i felt like he was sorry even a little (even tho i know wishing that does nothing for me). like at one point that man actually made my heart glow and then suddenly it was all just gone and it broke something in me.
Last updated on:2025-03-29T14:46:48+05:30
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That's so true , We really need to validate each other's feelings even the negative ones.The whole process of getting out of the break up is not about not giving an F about the other person, but about being " I don't mind"
and it's the byproduct of going through the process.Thanks for sharing this response.Hope you can share more with us all . your feelings are valid.and only acceptance and Genuine compassion paves way for healing as well .
good wishes and much Love
It’s okay to feel changed by what happened. Heartbreak has a way of shifting how we see the world
Your feelings are valid and it’s not fair for anyone to dismiss them.
Wishing for closure is normal even if you know you might not get it. It’s hard to move on without answers
You loved with an open heart and that’s one of the bravest things anyone can do.
Being dumped over text is unimaginably painful and it’s not something you should have to brush off. You’re allowed to feel everything you deserve that space
Sometimes people don’t understand the depth of heartbreak because they haven’t felt it the same way. But your experience matters and it’s okay to grieve for as long as you need.
Feeling broken doesn’t mean you’re weak. It means you cared so much that it left a mark and that’s nothing to be ashamed of.
You gave your all to someone and it’s natural to feel deeply hurt when they let you down. It’s a sign of how big and beautiful your heart is don’t let anyone diminish that.
Your pain is valid and it’s okay to still feel the waves of sadness. Healing isn’t linear and no one has the right to tell you how to process your trauma.
Yeah tbh this makes a lot of sense. You never really got to let your feelings out so now you're still stuck on the whole he didn’t care thing. But ngl he probably did—he was most likely just as sad as you. One thing I’d say tho is try to move on mentally not emotionally. Like, train your mind to believe you’ve moved on. You might still be sad or miss him but reminding yourself that you can mentally distance yourself will help a lot.
Hope that helps!