Met this girl at a fest two years ago started dating saw her every weekend. Only issue she didn’t tell me she had herpes till after we hooked up (got tested I’m clear). Three months in she ended things over text right before flying to Paris. Said she wasn’t ready for a relationship but wanted to stay friends then hit me up saying she missed me. I stayed cool with her ‘cause I still had feelings.
Fast forward a few months she randomly invited me to a rave. I was already nearby so I pulled up. We got drunk she kissed me in the middle of the dance floor. I called her out like why? She admitted she didn’t know what she wanted but said she lovd me (first time ever). I forgave her we stayed friends nothing romantic except crashing at her place sometimes.
Last month she and her sister threw a multi day party. I showed up picked up one of their friends from the airport and walked in to see her with another guy. My stomach dropped full jealousy mode. Had no clue she was seeing someone else. Got drunk threw up ghosted the whole weekend. She checked in I kept it light but inside I was wrecked.
Couple days later she sent IG reels. I ignored them then decided to take a social media break for my mental health. Announced it she texted asking if I was okay. Two weeks of silence then I finally told her I couldn’t be friends anymore and that I hated how she treated me. She apologized hoped I’d forgive her and I left it there.
Been a week since I cut her off. On one hand I wasted too much time chasing something dead should’ve moved on. On the other she was one of my closest friends and it feels like another breakup. Her sister invited me to the same Renaissance fest where we met I declined—didn’t want drama. Now my friends are planning to go and her sister might invite her. Lowkey wanna bail if she’s gonna be there.
I just want the pain gone wish I could erase all memories of her. Spent so much energy on something toxic and don’t know if I’ll ever fully heal. Honestly I wish I knew how to let her go.
Last updated on:2025-04-02T16:52:44+05:30
Comments (9)
You’ve already done the hardest part walking away. Now give yourself the same love you once gave her.
Blocking out the memories won’t happen overnight but every day you choose peace over pain you win.
I know it’s tough, but when someone constantly plays with your emotions cutting ties is the only real closure.
The fact that you still feel like you’re grieving says you cared deeply. But caring doesn’t mean staying stuck.
Healing takes time but staying in toxic situations only makes the wound deeper. Keep putting yourself first.
She kept you in a cycle of confusion while moving on herself. You deserve clarity not mixed signals.
Letting go feels like another heartbreak but one day you’ll wake up and realize she doesn’t hold power over you anymore.
You did the right thing cutting her off. Sometimes the hardest part of healing is choosing yourself over history.
Hey Seems like you got stuck with a person with lot of confusion.and to be honest it totally understandable that you feel jealous, since you were not the one confused and whatever decision you took it was with all your heart. My suggestion would be keep maintaining the "No contact" no matter what.and ask yourself what do you really want from Life. Try new people or new friends, try taking up new activities, Doing something of service or Volunteering people in need could be really helpful in such times.