my 32M cheated on me. just found out not long ago got the receipts but i’m not ready to leave him yet
work’s super hectic rn, it’s that time of year where i’m clocking mad hours until like end of april. and ngl i don’t handle stress or anxiety well at all
two years ago around this same time i got cheated on by someone else. i dipped immediately but i loved him so much it wrecked me. like full-on spiral. two days after that breakup i started getting symptoms of hypertension but didn’t realize it. thought it was just heartbreak pain. couldn’t think straight cried constantly at home and work stopped eating my whole body was in pain—chest back head limbs all of it. job needs me to be 100% focused all the time but i kept messing up and got fired a week later. two days after that got diagnosed with hypertension... my bp was like 190/117. took about a month for the physical pain to chill. that heartbreak seriously almost ended me
fast forward to last year i meet this amazing guy who’s kinda the opposite of me in the best way. he made me wanna level up—be more social, more structured, more present. i fell HARD. was fully picturing marriage kids growing old together hitting up Village Inn at 7am like cute old ppl lol. but now i found out he’s cheating. not sure how far it went but he’s been talking to other girls in our city. he deleted the convos the day after i found out so my proof’s kinda weak didn’t get to screenshot everything. don’t know if he slept with anyone or how long it’s been going on but there’s enough to know he’s crossed lines
i’m embarrassed to even think about staying but i’m scared that breaking up will push me back into that dark place i was in two years ago. and with work being insane rn i don’t have the space to fall apart. so i’m planning to just play it cool and keep the peace till things slow down at work by end of april so i can handle it better
thing is i wear my emotions all over my face and body. pretending like everything’s normal is hard af. he’s probably already sensing something’s off. i just... don’t know what to do. is it stupid to stay?
Last updated on:2025-04-07T12:05:09+05:30
Comments (3)
yeah he cheated and if u feel like there’s no way to fix things w him then it’s okay to walk away
someone once told me bad times are still better than bad people
you’re gonna have to face it sooner or later
and yeah it might get dark for a bit
so pls keep your ppl close and stay around good vibes
fight through it
life’s shown me u really can get through anything
and u will too
you got this fr just trust the process 💛
i think u should stay n try to work it out sounds like him missing u pushed him towards other girls
working it out isn’t even on the table tbh like how am i supposed to trust him again
i just wanna feel safe in love yk like peaceful and not anxious
we still hang out sometimes even when i’m super busy cuz i actually make the effort for quality time
he went to other girls cuz he wanted to not cuz he had to
and even if we did try to fix things what happens next year when this busy season hits again like is it just gonna be the same cycle