I don’t get how someone who claims they loved you can cheat on you with someone they’ve only known for 2 months. We were together for almost 4 years, lived together and started speaking about starting a family and marriage. All the while he was starting a secret emotional connection behind my back with his young coworker. He went out one night, never came home, was seen out with her, then dumped me by text the next day. Now he’s been with her for 3 months, both changed their profile picture on social media of each other and posts each other on their Snapchat. he’s 27 and she’s 20. all that they have in common is that they are both heavy drinkers and like to drink. I got told he is looking rough, a mess and put weight on due to bloating from the constant drinking of alcohol. all he does is work with her then they both go to the pub to drink together. I am not a drinker yet he never invited me to go down to the pub with him - I’d have to ask or beg if I could come. he got into a relationship with her weeks after he broke up with me. I found out he cheated later which is possibly the reason why he broke up with me the following day with no explanation. I asked him is there anyone else and he kept lying to me and telling me there isnt when I knew deep down there was and my instinct were right. now I’ve got to carry on living in the house we called our home together by myself and alone with our two cats we adopted together. it’s been 3 months since and I still stay awake all night crying, missing him, and still loving him. whereas he does not show a single amount of remorse or regret. you would have thought after 4 years I’d meant more to him than that but all he has shown me since the break up is nothing but rage, malice and being spiteful. he told me the guy he’s with now is ten times the women I’d ever be. after all those memories we made, future plans we spoke about, I never thought we would end like this and I’d be replaced, forgotten about and discarded like I was nothing. he wasn’t even working at his job for long when he met her. he’s only known her 2 months and he’s thrown away a 4 year relationship over a 20 year old girl he’s known for 2 months. I am utterly devastated, lost and heartbroken. he has blocked me on everything, number, WhatsApp, Instagram, tiktok, etc. what has she got that’s so great that he chose her over me. I’m sorry I wasn’t good enough, I’m sorry I wasn’t a drinker. I’m sorry I wasn’t fun. I’m sorry if I seemed boring because I wanted to settle down. I’m sorry if I was boring because I wanted to do things outside of the pub and have date nights and watch things together. I’m sorry that I’m not attractive enough for you. I’m sorry I let myself go. I’m sorry I put on weight. I’m sorry I stopped wearing make up. I’m sorry I stopped doing my hair to impress you. I’m sorry I stopped wearing nice clothes - I just felt so comfortable and at home with you. I’m sorry that I wouldn’t drink with you I just don’t like alcohol. I’m sorry that the future we were planning together was no longer the future you wanted. I’m sorry for struggling with anxiety and panic attacks and you wanted a normal girlfriend. I’m sorry I’ll never be the one that makes you happy.
Last updated on:2025-04-07T14:38:12+05:30
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I read your post with a bit of tears in my eyes actually. I hope you can understand that you don't need to be sorry and some people just want to dig themself a pit to fall into which is what the case seems like with your partner. Hopefully you can make an effort to heal from this and move on
His choices say everything about him and nothing about you. Love shouldn’t make you doubt yourself it should make you feel safe.
This pain won’t last forever. You’ll wake up one day, and the ache will be replaced with peace—and eventually, real happiness.💞
None of this was your fault. You showed up fully in the relationship and he took that for granted. That’s on him.
Losing someone you built your life around feels unbearable but please know his inability to appreciate you doesn’t define your value.
You were enough. His choices weren’t a reflection of your worth they were a reflection of his own lack of integrity.
*the girl he is with now is ten times the woman I’d ever be. sorry for this grammar mistake, it’s hard to read when you’re typing through tears
awww...i feel your pain. goin though with the same situation. but now im trying to heal my self
sending to good vibes.....