In October I matched with a guy on Hinge and we dated until January. We hit it off right away it felt nice having someone since I had just moved to a new city. He was my first and he knew that. We exchanged gifts talked every day and everything felt great. But in January I noticed a shift so I ended things over text. When we met up to talk he admitted he hadn’t been as present because of his demanding job.
When we got together he was fresh out of a four year relationship that had been long-distance for the last year. I took a chance on him which in hindsight was probably naive. After our breakup I checked his ex’s TikTok out of curiosity she was posting about heartbreak and love and I’m pretty sure they started talking again.
We broke up on good terms and agreed to stay friends but his texts have been pretty flirty and I’ve found myself engaging in that. Truth is I still like him a lot and miss him but the whole situation feels messy and I don’t want to hurt myself even more. To add to it his ex found out about me and started checking out my account so I blocked her fake profile...it was weird especially after she reposted a video about burner accounts stalking someone’s stories.
He’s moving back to his hometown for two months soon..where she is. If they get back together it’s going to sting but I know it’s out of my control. A part of me hopes that when he returns in August we might reconnect. I was even thinking about asking him out before he leaves but I don’t know. I feel so conflicted and hurt.
Last updated on:2025-04-09T13:38:13+05:30
Comments (6)
No matter what happens you’ll come out of this stronger. Take your time feel everything and do what truly feels best for you.
It’s okay to want closure but don’t let hope keep you in a situation that’s already showing cracks.
Flirty texts don’t mean real commitment. If he’s still entertaining his past where does that leave you?
Blocking the fake account was the right move. You don’t need added drama from outside forces while you’re trying to heal.
If his presence feels uncertain now imagine how that would feel in the long run.
It’s tough when feelings are still there but the situation feels messy. Protect your peace sometimes stepping back is the best choice.