I’m heartbroken over what I [20F] found under my [24M] boyfriend’s bed while cleaning

I’m heartbroken over what I [20F] found under my [24M] boyfriend’s bed while cleaning. On Friday I was tidying up to surprise him after work he’s been working long hours at a new job and I just wanted to help ease his stress. While cleaning I found a single gold hoop earring. At first I thought it was mine but I’ve only ever worn silver jewelry. Plus it was fake gold like something from Claire’s and I’m allergic to fake metals. I’ve always stuck to stainless steel or silver for my piercings.
I tried to rationalize it maybe it was from his ex? But he told me I’m his first girlfriend in two years and he’s only been in this house for about a year. I felt torn between wanting to cry scream and confront him or just asking calmly whose it was. To make things worse he recently told me he’s starting to fall out of love with me. I’m trying so hard not to freak out. He came home and I pretended to be asleep because I didn’t know how to bring it up. After his shower we sat down and I asked about the earring. He said he found it in a car when he worked at a used car dealership. I don’t know what to believe. He left the room for a bit and when he came back he brought me food and told me to trust him saying food and rest would fix everything. That hurt because I’ve been working hard to lose weight after my miscarriage last year and his comment felt dismissive. I told him I appreciated the food but that it wouldn’t make the situation go away. I decided to spend the night at a mutual friend’s house to clear my head. My friend suggested I leave if things can’t be worked out but my boyfriend didn’t like that idea saying all guys think the same. We talked again and I was ready to let it slide for the night since we were both tired. But when we got into bed he asked for a favor saying he didn’t want to shower in the morning so we wouldn’t go all the way. While doing it I felt something hard on my head and noticed he was flipping his phone. I asked what he was looking at and he said nothing. When I grabbed his phone to put it on the table he got cagey and I found out he was watching p-. I felt disrespected especially since I’ve made videos for him before. He brushed it off saying it didn’t make a difference to him. I told him how it made me feel unattractive but he didn’t seem to care. I ended up sleeping on the couch. This morning I woke up to him going through my phone. I didn’t care because I have nothing to hide but when I tried to check his phone he got defensive and elbowed me hard. I left and told him we were done. He texted me blaming me for getting hurt and calling me a crybaby. I told him I’d come back with a mutual friend to get my stuff and blocked him.

Last updated on:2025-04-12T23:20:03+05:30