I had been talking to this guy for about 3 months. We went on a tournament trip together for 3 days and spent every moment together. I thought there might be something between us but I wasn’t sure. People on the trip kept asking if something was going on because “it was so obvious.”
Fast forward we’d been talking for 2 months after that. He would flirt and make plans to do things together when we met up. Since our university has 3 different campuses and we’re on separate ones we didn’t meet often. Yesterday I saw him for the first time since we started talking and he barely said anything. He just shook my hand and left.
I had plans to drink with my friends so I got a little drunk. I decided to confront him and ask if this was going anywhere. I also wanted to let him know I didn’t appreciate how he acted earlier. I asked him if he likes me and he immediately responded As a friend right? I was like… sure? Then he started saying how amazing I am and how much he trusts me. I built up the courage to ask if he liked me in any other way and that’s when he told me he’s actually been dating someone for almost a month.
I felt like an idiot. I had no idea. I just sat there stunned like he had taken my heart and ripped it open. He said there was nothing going on between him and his now-partner while we were on that trip but that didn’t make me feel any better. It just made me want to cry my eyes out. I got up and left.
Now I feel so embarrassed and stupid. I made such a fool of myself. What hurts even more is that I still can’t bring myself to hate him—or at least stop liking him. I’ve decided to cut off contact out of respect for his partner but I’m absolutely heartbroken.
Last updated on:2025-04-14T15:27:28+05:30
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I feel you.. my dude was in a whole relationship for like a year 🙃 some guys are just straight up trash hiding stuff to lead people on and I'm so sorry you went through that. It's not your fault. You weren't wrong for catching feelings or hoping for more. Don't blame yourself for not knowing you did your best with what you knew. Feel your feels it won't be like this forever trust me. You deserve someone who chooses you and is clear about it. Hope you heal ❤️
Okay so I'm kinda confused like three months and you're just finding out he's dating someone that sounds like he was using you. He probably knew you liked him but just wanted the attention even if he didn't like you back. Plus I'm guessing you talked a lot like daily and even if he didn't know you had feelings he had plenty of chances to mention his girlfriend.