last year was our first year of college. I was super introverted so didn't talk much to anyone. I told him online and he supported me. When we met up at college he was chill at first but then started giving signs like trying to be around me talk to me sit near me during labs staring at me all the time and stuff. I thought he liked me he was also kinda introverted with not many friends. But then people found out he was talented and he got a lot of friends plus he went on a picnic with them a boys trip. I was still introverted so didn't really talk to him. Later I left college for some reasons but like a month after I left I confessed online with my friend's help and he rejected me. He even started ignoring my texts at the end of college before I left. We're still Insta friends he joined college committees. At first he'd reply to my texts now he just sees them or likes them. Never starts a convo himself. If he replies it's super short. After I left I saw like five new girls joined my batch. He was the type to never touch girls but he put his hand on this new girl's shoulder in a committee pic they were standing far apart. She's in most of his pics but idk for sure. It kinda hurts. Sometimes I wonder if I stayed in college would he have changed his mind? And now even if I text him he reads it like an hour later even when he's online. He looks all happy with that new girl. Last year he was different but this year he changed why? Is it cuz of her? I know real life stuff is more real than online but I was with him in class for a year. But he forgot it in a few months. Now I gotta pick a college should I go to a new one (won't see him for three years) or the old one (might see him but no guarantee he'll change his mind)? I thought maybe we'd reconnect later but in India people get married early or he might fall for someone else through committees since he was there last year without even giving me a chance in the future. Help.
Last updated on:2025-04-17T14:12:27+05:30
Comments (8)
Even if it feels like he’s moved on that doesn’t mean you can’t find happiness elsewhere. Focus on building a life you love and the right connections will follow.
I can feel how much you’re hurting and it’s okay to feel that way. But this is also an opportunity to put yourself first and figure out what you truly want.
It’s tough to see him happy and wonder if things could’ve been different but don’t let his choices define your future. You deserve to focus on what makes you happy.
Choosing a college is such a big decision. Maybe think about where you want to be and what will help you grow. Don’t let someone else’s actions dictate your path.
I know it feels like he’s changed completely but people do grow in unexpected ways. It doesn’t mean there’s anything wrong with you it’s about where he’s at.
It hurts when someone you cared about seems to move on so easily but that doesn’t mean you should hold yourself back. Focus on what’s best for you moving forward.
You’re overthinking because you care so much, and that’s totally valid. But remember if he truly valued the connection he’d show it regardless of where you are.
It’s so hard to deal with feelings like this especially when it feels like things might’ve been different if circumstances had changed. Give yourself grace his actions don’t define your worth.