So here is the big question.. Do you still want your Ex back? maybe answering this will give you clarity on where you are at in your own headspace.
Last updated on:2025-06-12T17:31:43+05:30
So here is the big question
So here is the big question.. Do you still want your Ex back? maybe answering this will give you clarity on where you are at in your own headspace.
Last updated on:2025-06-12T17:31:43+05:30
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I'm not gone lie. I want what I thought we could've had back. I want what I pictured in the beginning back. what I truly went thru. how we truly hurt eachother. how we became what we've become. I don't want her back. I can truly say that. for so long I told myself. I can't live without you. I just miss you. I just miss your smile. talking to you. us just hanging out. but when I dig deep. no I don't miss her cause she hurt me alot. she made me think I was stupid for asking questions I knew the answer to. I was an alcoholic I'm recovering now 2 yrs n 3 months. so yes I was a bit much some days. not gone lie. n honestly looking back at it. I wanted thos illusion of her. she told me when we first got together. first she was married when we met. they had a open marriage. she kept telling me I want it to be you not him. she wanted this whole poly kinda lifestyle. I wasn't I to that. n once I really was over the sharing thing I'm like I'm better than this. n it got harder I stopped talking to her. n she came back n said I want more of you. n here I go like okay. n we got closer n closer. they separated n things still wasn't different. it's like she always chose everyone else but me. yes I've done my fair share. but it wasn't until yr 7. for 6 yrs I waited I took the lil time she gave me. I basically settled for scrapes. and yr 7 when they separated she came like wanna really do this thing but my heart had given it up I wasn't all in no more so I did my infidelity. but if I can really say when I find myself crying in the shower. I ask myself why the F u really crying fee. n here it is folks I just gotta b real. I wanna know what she doing? I wanna know who she with? I wanna know what's going on? I'm a bit controlling and a Lil possessive but that truly stems from insecurities . that I'm working on today. so I look at one thing when me n her talk what are our convo about. n it's not about the future it's not about building. it's about reminiscing. n honestly we don't talk about nun. she don't really know nun bout my new life n idk nun bout hers. the fact I'm single n sober. n she's been dating tryna find women to make her happy n haven't yet. I don't want my ex back. I want what I thought we could've had. but truth. we was never gone have nun. if she could lie to me about her husband. then she could lie to me about anything. that was a short answer but I know if I go back I'm gonna die mentally emotionally spirtually.
hugs, big hugs. for all the hurting and for baring yourself here. it does seem like you have got it figured out in your head but your heart is longing for the old connection. I think you are going to be ok you only need time and love and affection from your close ones. I wish a whole lot of new things to you, someone who actually plans a future with you, walks in a new direction with you. thats my wish for you. plus ur doing your sober thing through this ..thats đź‘Źđź‘Źđź‘Źđź‘Ź
@callmemaybee right. cause I would've been drunk n high from this pain. but I can't go back. n she just like the alcohol n drugs for me. the minute I pick up that phone n text or respond it's Luke my body heart mind want more n more n I keep going until I'm sick n my heart hurt n my spirit say what we doing. u not happy your hurting ya self more. it's crazy you said the heart thing. caise I been praying about my heart. she such a strong hold. but I never thought I b sober. I'm finna b 36 and this the longest I been sober since I was 16yrs old. so if God can show me I can do this with His help. I know I Can heal from that relationship with His help. thank you for being on my journey at this time in my life.
@callmemaybee I think we messed eachother up emotionally n mentally pretty bad. it's gone take alot of time. but I stay hopeful that God heals my broken heart and I truly love me again.
@Feelion89 we all as humans have a tendency to be wanted..it feels good to have control or hold of someone else because it kinda validates us. I have seen that love is truly about letting go of that hold and control and wanting the best for your loved one even if it means losing control. Once that is clear in your mind you can easily see who means what in your life. Take care of yourself. love yourself enough so that whatever more love you get from others is not a need but.a bonus
Sometimes figuring out if you want your ex back means digging into what the relationship brought you and whether it’s something you can find within yourself now.
true that
It’s tough to admit if you still want your ex back but being honest about it can help you reflect on what you truly want for yourself.
well said
That’s such a good question sometimes being honest with yourself about wanting your ex back can help you figure out if it’s about them or just the comfort of the relationship.