me and my girl had a whole drama thing recently. Basically she's kinda possessive right like her ex cheated after five years so she's got trust issues and all that. But she's trippin cause I follow or have followers who are other cute girls at our college. We go to the same uni. She wants me to unfollow them but I'm like that's kinda controlling 'cause if I was gonna cheat she could just ask me straight up. If I'm talking to someone she can just ask. Like I don't want her snooping through my phone and stuff I need my privacy. She can just ask if she's that sus. She says she's possessive and what she did was 'cause I don't like feeling controlled she said she'd try not to be possessive. She said she'd change to be how I like her so she wouldn't care about the following thing. And I got mad cause I don't want her changing for me. So I was like I'm changing too and we fought last night. Then today I told her I'm changing for her too for her own good. So I ghosted her and blocked her and didn't reply. Then at night she kept calling. I picked up and just talked normal stuff. She said she had a headache or whatever so I didn't even call back. I don't even know whose fault this is. Mine or hers? Last night I told her you don't gotta change I like you how you are and I won't cheat and she was cool with it and said thanks for the heads-up she was normal this morning too and I was chill but then I suddenly got mad about last night and said I'm changing too so I'll only talk to you at night... idk man is it my bad or hers?
Last updated on:2025-04-21T15:51:09+05:30
Comments (8)
You’re both expressing your frustrations in different ways which is understandable. Focusing on open and honest communication without letting emotions take over could make things smoother.
It’s clear you care about each other but miscommunication seems to be fueling the conflict. Maybe sitting down together to openly share your feelings without blame could help.
Relationships get messy when past insecurities and trust issues creep in. It might help to talk about ways to rebuild trust while keeping your own boundaries intact.
It sounds like she’s trying to navigate her trust issues but it’s also important that you both feel respected. Maybe finding a middle ground could ease the tension.
The blocking and ghosting thing could’ve escalated emotions it might help to explain to her why you did that and how you’re feeling about the whole situation.
Trust issues can complicate things especially when past relationships play a role. It’s good that she’s trying to work on her possessiveness but it’ll take patience from both of you.
This sounds like a lot of back and forth emotions on both sides which is completely normal in relationships. Maybe it’s less about whose fault it is and more about figuring out how to communicate better.
This is kinda sus like the whole sitch how old are y'all tho. Her straight up asking if you're cheating might not fix her being insecure she could just think you're capping. You want her to be less clingy but when she says she'll try you're like nah don't change so what even do you want..The way y'all talk just seems off she's insecure and you're clueless how to help her out.