I have been in relationships. Had a four year thing then a two year one. Thought the long one would be the worst breakup first everythin grew up together all that. But we just kinda drifted when I went to college. Still sucked tho. Then I met this other dude didn't plan it so fast but when you know you know type beat. Weirdly I think I never fully let myself love him partly scared of getting hurt again partly other stuff I was dealing with. Broke up in September and I've had this gut feeling it was wrong like no real reason. It was mutual outta nowhere one dumb drunk fight. Looking back my mental health and personal stuff were a big part of it. Breakups hit different when you realize you were the problem not them. I kept stuff from him not big things just dumb stuff and held back. Regret it hard. We could've been so good if I wasn't so messed up then. I think I kinda expected him to fix my issues that weren't even his fault. No contact since October. I don't cry anymore and I'm finally content alone. But this feeling the breakup was wrong won't leave. Tightness in my throat sometimes. Never felt this with the fouryear guy or the short flings. I unfollowed him for my sanity but he's always the first to view or like my stuff. Hurts a little every time I see his name but it'd hurt more if I didn't. If he wanted to be with me he'd reach out right? But I feel this way and I still don't reach out either. If you read all this thanks. Just confused conflicted sad sometimes happy single others. But that wrong decision feeling is always there. How do you know you made the right call? How long will this last? What if it never goes away? How long do I wait to say something, if ever? It's been six months. He could be totally moved on. Or maybe he feels the same. Anyone else been through this? What did you do?
Last updated on:2025-04-23T13:16:33+05:30
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What if it never goes away? It will maybe not suddenly but gradually. Whether or not you ever speak again, you’ll find clarity when the time is right.
Seeing his name still stings because there’s unresolved emotion.
Six months is a long time but emotions don’t work on a schedule. If reaching out feels right for you there’s no harm in seeking clarity.
If he wanted to be with you he might reach out but the same goes for you. Sometimes closure only happens if we allow space for honesty.
Regret can make breakups feel heavier but the fact that you’re reflecting means you’re learning. Whether or not you reach out you’re evolving.
I’ve felt that lingering doubt before and honestly, it took time. Eventually clarity came when I focused on my own growth instead of the what-ifs.
It’s hard when the breakup wasn’t about love fading but personal struggles. Give yourself grace.you did the best you could with what you knew then.
That wrong decision feeling is tough especially when there was no major reason for the breakup. Sometimes healing means accepting uncertainty.