my boyfriend of five years just broke up with me like a week ago. Never loved anyone like him, for real. we were so good together but also kinda toxic? We taught each other a lot and I'm grateful for that. But the stress got too much for both of us and he called it. Honestly the most selfless thing we could've done. We tried to make it work we really did. But I was lowkey making him worse and he was making me worse too. I wrote him a letter saying maybe after we heal we can find our way back. He cried and said he hoped so too.
I can't stop crying and he's being so strong for both of us since we still live together (I'm moving out soon). I really need some advice. I didn't wanna break up but I know it's for the best for our growth. I can't help but think why couldn't we have grown together? But then I remember we tried and it just kept getting worse.
I'm gonna miss him so much. Really need some advice to make this separation easier.
Last updated on:2025-04-26T05:23:45+05:30
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You're going to be okay whatever it will take you, storm ended, rain ended, wounds healed, and so will your heart, i tried to make things right with my ex, but it doesn't work because he didn't want it to work, and that's up to each person's decision, letting go of someone means letting go of the future with them and also a version of him in your mind, which is so hard, i would suggest you to reflect on this relationship and see how you grow and what's not working in this situation, you can use AI and make prompts everyday, ask yourself about how you feel and how you do in the day, track your progress and talk to people who you can trust, make your routine slightly different everyday, start with something new like breathing exercises and document your progress, acknowledge your feelings, don't let them hurt another people, hurt people only hurt another, good luck, we love you
Your love for him seems genuine and pure. He sounds supportive and understanding—a great partner. If I were you, I'd fight for this relationship, especially since he strives to improve both your lives. Love involves sacrifice. If you were to separate, your strong love might bring you back together. Trust your gut feeling and what your heart desires, as God works in mysterious ways.
how do y'all lowkey make each other worse tho I think I'm in the same mess
that's a lot to unpack. You know when you just keep trying but it's going nowhere? Like making things even more of a mess.
We def didn't wanna end up hating each other so he just called it.
@RoseGold Oh ok. Mine is a little different. I'm so sorry you're going through this
@kiwiibird It's chill I'm actually working on my mindset and looking forward to good things. Time to finally learn to love myself for real
@RoseGold so lowkey ironic but he dipped when I was super down bad. It wasn't till I started doing my own thing again and got my confidence back a bit that things got better tho.
@kiwiibird Same for me fr my ex dipped when I was super depressed My soul dog just passed like three months ago my car got towed my health went downhill cuz I stopped eating And then he left me Im down to 89 pounds and can't gain weight Now I gotta find my own place and Im so scared All alone :(
I totally get what you're saying and feel that heavy even if it's not my most recent breakup.
You kinda already know the answer in your own post tho. You're doing this breakup thing cause you love each other. You gotta let each other go cause that's what your love actually needs you to do. It's gonna hurt like a rusty nail in your knee but it's gotta happen cause you both deserve better versions of yourselves and better lives. Maybe you'll get back together maybe not.
But remember growing and healing isn't about getting back together it's just about growing.
As I'm writing this I'm lowkey sad thinking about my own breakup and how true these words are for my own feels.
You'll get through this and grow and the best thing you can give your ex is this promise that you're gonna grow and get better.
Thank you for taking the time to write this
@RoseGold Learned that being nice takes like a sec but it comes back to you forever. Glad I was nice to you tho 😌