My boyfriend and I broke up months ago, after only three months together. I still remember meeting him—how our first conversation went so well, how I found him cute after a friend introduced us. He was smart, kind, and understanding, but he sometimes overreacted. For example, he overthought my clothing choices, assuming any color-coordinated outfit meant I had a favorite color (I don't!). He decided I had a favorite color, despite my saying otherwise.During our semester break, we spent a lot of time together, talking and getting to know each other. Initially, he seemed mature and kind. However, when I asked about his past relationships, he was evasive. Since then, I've noticed some red flags: he frequently boasts about his wealth and power, sometimes acting immaturely, contradicting the mature persona I initially perceived. He's also heavily addicted to online games, often spending entire days on a specific app where many of his ex-girlfriends are active. This addiction, coupled with his dismissal of my concerns about societal issues while he spends hours gaming, has left me deeply conflicted.Our communication faltered, marked by delayed replies and a week-long absence he attributed to illness. Following this, four days passed without contact, which I initially attributed to personal struggles. However, he missed our month anniversary, claiming ignorance of the occasion despite having been in a three-year relationship previously. He left without waiting for me and later revealed he was experiencing mild depression. While I offered support, his subsequent absences from school, coupled with unanswered texts, significantly impacted my mental health. My distress intensified when a girl, a friend of his ex-girlfriend, contacted me through a private account only my boyfriend knew about, revealing his infidelity.
Last updated on:2025-04-27T01:22:02+05:30
Comments (18)
It seems that he may not be ready to handle a relationship and a person like that should stay alone.please invest your time more carefully in a person
Girl, I'm glad you don't spend so much time with people who cant when handle themselves, you did your best by offering support but then it's up to his business, you're not responsible for fixing him and you're responsible for only your well-being and how you feel inside, you're going to be okay, don't date trashy people, you deserve a partner that gives the same energy, just like me. if he shows no guilt or remorse that's clearly his own problem, you're allowed to feel, and then grow
The way he dismissed your concerns while spending time online shows a lack of emotional maturity. You deserve a partner who listens and engages.
I've noticed a lack of emotional intelligence in him. Initially, I wondered if his past relationship contributed to this, perhaps lacking the experience of genuine love. However, I now see a lack of personal growth or character development.
this sounds very rough traumatising and stressful. i know you must be feeling down at how he has been not present but believe me you are better off without him. All he seems to care about is his moment to moment fun and seems to be in some kind of coping mechanism for his own stresses and traumas with his gaming addiction... so you are better off without him believe me
Thank you. He seems devoid of emotion, like a robot. Considering our interactions throughout school, it feels as though the fault lies solely with me; I'm the only one suffering, and he shows no guilt or remorse.
@BraveBear you deserve better.. you got a chance to move on
You showed understanding patience and love and it’s okay to feel hurt by how things played out. Give yourself grace as you process everything.
Thank you
It’s painful to realize that someone you trusted was hiding things, but trust that moving forward without them will bring you more peace.
I hope so. People constantly ask about him, especially the teachers who witnessed our relationship. They keep bringing up the past. It would be easier to move on if no one knew about us.
Gaming dismissiveness inconsistency those patterns were unfair to you. Your mental health matters and stepping away is an act of self-care.
Thank you
You gave your best in this relationship but it sounds like he wasn’t fully present. You deserve someone who values your time energy and emotions.
Thank You
My first boyfriend cheated on me, leaving me deeply hurt and without closure. The experience has been incredibly disappointing, especially considering I overlooked his red flags. I now realize he was manipulative and narcissistic.
i feel u. m sorry uh we're going through this☹️
@HealingVibes We deserve better.