Okay so my first love dipped to get that bag somewhere else. We were gonna do long distance cuz he didn’t wanna lose me but then a week before he bounced he just dumped and ghosted. He was chill overall and had some cute moments but def not prince charming vibes. Showing affection was kinda his kryptonite which sucked for me cuz I’m all about that reassurance. He’d say some sweet stuff sometimes like I was perfect and cute and funny but honestly I always felt like I was putting in way more effort to show I liked him. We didn’t even say I love you till the breakup but he was crying hard about “having” to leave me.
It’s been eight months and I know he’s gone for good and I don’t even necessarily want him back but I still get stuck on all the good bits and how he was the first to make me feel pretty and important. Heard from the group chat he’s moved on with someone new but I can’t shake this last bit of sadness about losing him. At the end of the day he really hurt me and his actions didn’t match his words. I know I deserved better but I still let him pop into my head a lot. How do I stop making our kinda basic relationship seem like some fairytale and finally let go of that last bit of hope?
Last updated on:2025-04-28T15:09:51+05:30
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I got a whole notes app dedicated to my ex's bad traits. Helps me remember he wasn't all that and snaps me back to reality. I kinda built him up in my head.
My ex was dry af too. I'm all about the lovey dovey stuff but he never called me pretty or anything and then dipped. Looking back the fact I stayed with a dude who couldn't even say I looked good is kinda hilarious. You two sounded totally different and he just seemed meh. That ain't it. Keep telling yourself that.
that sounds fire Thanks for sharing and the advice it means a lot fr. My ex was the same he wouldn’t compliment me much or plan fun dates or anything I liked so when he did do those things sometimes I like totally overhyped it. It was my first ever relationship so I just thought that was how it was supposed to be. But really he was just kinda mid and I made him seem way cooler than he was.
I’m def gonna try making a list to remind myself not to settle anymore. Thanks for the advice :)
@icee23 so I'm a big list person. Maybe make a list in your notes about your dream guy like looks and personality. When I made mine my ex didn't even fit lol. I get it's your first relationship so it feels extra but trust there's gonna be so many guys who'll impress you and some who'll be trash. Just keep looking at that list and never ever settle.
@Lovealone thanks for all the good advice and like the support it means a lot. Gonna get to work on that list today ❤️