Okay so I've never really dated,but I just had two messed up situations making me think relationships are gonna be impossible for me.
First time I def liked this guy and made it clear I was down to commit like I put my whole heart out there for him. but he just wanted time and kinda breadcrumbed me or whatever so I dipped in the end felt like I was the only one hoping for something and taking it seriously even tho the feelings were there for like three years. So the heartbreak was heavy especially as a tired med student.
Next thing was like six weeks later this nice mature dude was pretty direct he liked me and I liked that after leaving the last thing for being one-sided and unsure but this time I still felt the pain from before like I wasn't emotionally ready to try again and even tho I told him that he was like he'd be there for me but the thought of more heartbreak is so scary I ended it again and he was chill and the convos were natural and he was cute but I was just scared of getting hurt again since I was already hurting. Like the first thing taught me about wanting someone who likes you back and the second taught me timing and both people being ready are important but I just feel drained and over love rn.
Are all love fails this draining? Does ending things always feel this heavy? And when does the fear of getting hurt just go away cause I think I'm just scared of love now.
Last updated on:2025-04-28T16:40:11+05:30
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Love isn’t impossible for you. It just hasn’t been the right time the right person or the right situation yet. But when it is you’ll know.
You’re putting in the emotional work and that already sets you apart. When love comes again you’ll be entering it from a place of strength not fear.
Ending things always feels heavy when feelings are involved but that weight lessens as you grow and learn to trust yourself more.
Heartbreak teaches tough lessons but one day you’ll find love without the fear. The right person won’t make you question if you're ready they’ll just make it feel right.
You’re not scared of love you’re scared of loss and that’s totally understandable.
Timing matters so much in relationships just because something didn’t work out now doesn’t mean love won’t find you when you’re ready.
Not all love fails feel this heavy but heartbreak always takes a toll.
Love is hard when you’re already carrying past hurt being scared to try again is normal but it doesn’t mean you’re doomed to stay stuck forever.