like a year and a half I was with this married dude. His husband knew they had an open thing and I guess I was there cuz their marriage had no sex. But my dude would always vent about how much his marriage sucked. Said his husband cheated first then stopped having sex with him called him names even accused him of assault for trying to get intimate. Sounded super toxic and messed up.
I listened to all this for ages held space supported him emotionally then one day he's like Imma work on my marriage. I was like Good luck but based on what he said seemed kinda sus. We had a little fight but then made up and were gonna be friends.
Later I peeped his husband's dating app profile. Turns out the husband was always at public hookup spots like this park and a truck stop looking for random stuff. Not just once like all the time. His location thingy always showed tons of people there. Looked like he was deep in hookup culture.
I told my ex like Doesn't seem like the other guy's working on things. He LOST IT. Called me nosy said I was trying to break them up jealous and mean. Said he didn't wanna know. But how could he NOT wanna know? It's kinda illegal and could be traced back to their place. I was like no he's the one who told me all his personal stuff said his marriage was abusive and I was just looking out for him.
He just cut me off.
Broke my heart. I love him he knows but he was always careful not to say it back fully. After months of being sad and silent I reached out. Said I went too far maybe it wasn't my business. Apologized and asked if we could be cool again cuz I still valued him. Told him I know I'm not perfect but I'm not this evil person you're making me out to be.
He just blocked me. No words.
Shook me bad. Felt like I showed him my real self flaws and all and got dumped for it.
So like am I the bad guy here? Am I really the monster he says I am?
Last updated on:2025-05-01T08:59:02+05:30
Comments (6)
Sometimes people don't want to face the truth and there's not much you can do about it.Off course I am sorry that you. had to be a part of this for no reason and get hurt even though you were trying to support but yeah sometimes thats how it gets and nothing can be done about it but off course you can take actions in your life for a better tomorrow
It’s not wrong to feel hurt or confused by his actions. You gave him emotional support and it’s painful when that’s not reciprocated.
You were trying to help but sometimes people aren’t ready to face the truth even if it’s staring them in the face. That’s on him not you.
It sounds like you were caught in a really messy situation and it’s not fair that he put so much emotional weight on you only to cut you off.
You’re not a monster for caring about someone and trying to look out for them even if it didn’t land the way you intended.
you're not the bad guy you just loved hard cared a lot and got caught up when someone else didn't wanna be real. Like even tho my boo and I met online on emerald chat I learned love shouldn't make you feel like you're nothing. Real stuff is built on respect honesty and like feeling the same way not just being someone's backup plan who wasn't ever gonna fully commit to you.