Okay so back in March24 I started talking to this girl from college. We hung out one night good vibes all around. Kept chilling and like fourth date we kissed. Fire. I was feeling it. Everything seemed chill
About two months in I brought her to hang with my friends and their girls. Nice night she was kinda shy cause she didn't know them but it was cool. Next week we're at her place things got intimate. After I was like So you feeling exclusive? She kinda recoiled flopped on her bed looking bummed. Said she couldn't do boyfriend/girlfriend cause she'd prob move back home after graduation.
At that point I grabbed my stuff started dipping. She walked me to my car we talked a bit. She said things were moving too fast. I was like Lowkey feels like I'm getting played. She said it wasn't fake. More talk she said I probably hated her. I was like Nah I actually really like you that's why I want you to be my girlfriend. Ended up kissing her goodnight even tho I knew I shouldn't have.
Next morning I texted asking what her deal was said I obviously caught feelings. She replied she wanted to keep seeing each other enjoyed our time. Also apologized for the messy sitch. At this point I was really into her so even tho she wasn't down for BF/GF I still wanted to hang and be with her even if it meant getting hurt later. Simp vibes I know.
We kept dating. Two days before graduation back at her place more intimacy. Afterwards I brought up the BF/GF thing again (maybe ten weeks in?). Again she said no 'cause of the move. Little argument I dipped.
Next day my friend's birthday party at his place. Celebrated hard got blackout drunk. Threw up everywhere had to be carried home. My friends don't know but part of the reason I was so lit was the girl drama.
Day after graduation. Hungover went anyway. We sat next to each other graduated together. Texted her where her fam was went to snag a pic. Never met her fam but she asked her dad to take a pic of us. He did. Went back to our families night ended.
Couple days later she texted Wanna see something funny? Asked what she sent a screenshot of her dad texting who the dude was at graduation and if he was her boyfriend. I texted What did you say? She said No. Didn't push it but wasn't thrilled.
Week or two later hung out again. I asked What are we? She said Nothing. Got defensive What do you mean nothing? So everything we did meant nothing to you? She said nah that's not it. She just didn't know what to call it. I was like So what happens when you move back? We just stop talking? We'd been watching shows on Discord every night and she was like Nah we can still watch Love Island. Then I was like What after that?? Silence. I left upset.
Week passed and I was going to london for 13 days. She'd be gone before I got back. Week before my trip she sent a breakup text basically. Said Yeah idk if this is gonna work out. We broke up but I was hyped for london the whole time we were taking and shared that with her. She was hyped for me so I wanted to stay in touch after the breakup to share my trip.
Sent some food pics and stuff from london. She was into it. During the trip I vlogged 'cause she told me to wanted to see it. Came back edited the vid. Asked when she'd watch. She'd moved back by then said Sunday. Sunday came asked if she was ready. She said Can't playing Roblox. Set another time she bailed again. Lowkey that hurt as much as the breakup. Just wanted to share my trip and she flaked. Didn't even wanna be friends at that point. That stung.
Said I couldn't talk anymore it hurt knowing we weren't dating. Stopped talking. Every day I thought about it wanted to move on couldn't stop thinking about her. Downloaded Hinge just to date other girls and forget. Didn't work. All those dates flopped just made healing harder.
Time passed January 25 rolled around. Felt okay then mostly moved on. Now it's April '25 been on ten first dates. None worked out different reasons each time. All I want is a relationship someone to just vibe with. Still don't have that. That's the story.
Last updated on:2025-05-04T14:09:13+05:30
Comments (6)
The pain, the lessons the healing it all shapes your future relationships.
You gave this connection patience effort and honesty.
Closure is hard when someone isn’t clear about their feelings but you’ve grown through it. And even though the dates haven’t worked out you’re showing up and putting yourself out there that matters.
This situation hurt but it taught you what you truly want in a relationship. When the right person comes along they’ll appreciate you for exactly who you are.
You went through so much emotional ups and downs and it’s frustrating when someone doesn’t reciprocate the way you need.
Hey Buddy, I respect your feelings, Hope you find Love soon enough.You will surely find the relationship, No stress , just don't make any effort for it.Yeah I mean it.The best way to get any desire fulfilled is , act like you are already content and satisfied with your life as if you already have it.be the person. or act as if you already are the person with a relationship in your life and trust me it will come without you waiting. All the best