I'm on dating apps cause we're both Muslim. lives in another country different language kinda. Anyway she was serious about marriage early on gave me her number to talk more about it. Next day she wants to video chat for an hour we share our relationship expectations past stuff etc. She mentioned talking to a dude online for five months met her fam once didn't work out ended this year. Then she starts asking if I can fly to maxico in like two months to meet her parents.
This lowkey sketched me out. Like two months to fly across the world? Red flags went up. Thought stuff like visa scam maybe? or am I just a rebound?. Didn't say any of this to her tho. The day after the call she got super flirty calling me habibi and teasing a lot. Won't lie I flirted back and kinda caught feelings quick. Still three days in and this much intensity felt sus.
Then the next day she AGAIN asked about coming to maxico to meet her fam saying she trusts I'll come cause I love her. That was my breaking point. My suspicions went ?. So I asked her why the rush to meet her fam after barely knowing each other told her I was worried I was being used or was just a rebound. She got mad started arguing. After that I just blocked her cause I didn't trust it. It kinda hurt and now I feel bad for accusing her. But at the same time the whole thing felt off the instant flirting wanting me to fly over ASAP the visa thing in the back of my head I was just on edge the whole time. Now I kinda feel bad for accusing her tho.
So was I wrong to call her out? Heard too many stories about overseas marriage scams. Did I mess up even tho marriage isn't my plan rn? Keep in mind this all happened in less than a week.
Last updated on:2025-05-07T04:17:08+05:30
Comments (7)
Her reaction proves that she may not have actually been there by her heart and seems more like a scam.please don't let the guilt take over
You took the right decision, Live with it.Her reaction proves the point
Her reaction proved that she wasn’t willing to communicate openly. That’s not the foundation of something real it’s a sign you made the right choice.
You were right to listen to your instincts. Love should feel steady not like a whirlwind of pressure and uncertainty.
Even if blocking her felt harsh you needed distance to clear your mind.
No one should pressure you into commitment before trust is built. You had every right to ask questions and her reaction tells you what you needed to know.
It’s understandable to feel conflicted but questioning rushed commitment isn’t wrong. You owed yourself clarity and if she reacted negatively that speaks volumes.
Trusting your gut was the right call. If something felt off you did what was necessary to protect yourself your instincts were there for a reason.