me and my fiancé been together three years engaged since Christmas but since then her anxiety's been wild she's always overthinking our relationship cuz of past arguments

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me and my fiancé been together three years engaged since Christmas but since then her anxiety's been wild she's always overthinking our relationship cuz of past arguments. I love her a lot and I've been trying to be better like being more open and making more effort but she's still stressed the past will repeat.
I was deployed Jan to March which was hard but we got through it then yesterday she wanted to break up she was crying saying she loved me but felt too guilty for how she was acting and the future was stressing her out. I'm doing no contact seeing her Friday for the ring and my stuff. Still kinda hoping maybe she'll heal and we can see what's up later. Any advice on this sitch?

Last updated on:2025-05-07T04:13:04+05:30

Comments (9)

KeepitSaral
KeepitSaral 10 mths ago

May be her anxiety has a lot to do with her and not so much about you.May be there is something that's stressing her out and she doesn't know how to realise.For now keeping the distance may help and let her have the time she wants

Penii054
Penii054 10 mths ago

Loving someone through anxiety isn’t easy but you’ve done it with patience and care.

lovecolor
lovecolor 10 mths ago

Seeing her again will be tough but try to focus on clarity rather than pain

flowflow01
flowflow01 10 mths ago

Her love is still there but her fear is louder. Maybe with time she’ll understand that love is about overcoming struggles together not running from them.

Gilibi001
Gilibi001 10 mths ago

Relationships take work and you’ve been putting in the effort. If she needs space to heal trust that whatever happens you’ll be okay.

broknflower
broknflower 10 mths ago

You’re handling this with grace even through heartbreak.

realgirl
realgirl 10 mths ago

Breakups are painful but if she’s truly struggling with anxiety she might be making decisions out of fear rather than clarity. Let time work things out.

camelbie
camelbie 10 mths ago

You’ve been patient understanding and willing to grow sometimes people need time to see the love that’s right in front of them.

iricduo
iricduo 10 mths ago

Love is complicated especially when anxiety twists the past into fear for the future. If she still loves you space might give her the clarity she needs.