I was engaged to my fiance. Overall things were chill she was great amazing around the house good with my kids they loved her always had my back during tough times. Early on she said she had a threesome with two dudes. Didn't like that we talked but she defended it so I kinda ignored it. Still bugged me but not enough to ditch the whole thing. Later she'd say she wants to be treated like a slut that's always been her thing and sex is just a mutual need we can handle for each other. I'm a pretty intimate person think sex should be special and intimate and cherished. Recently we talked about her past and she said she's been with a bunch of guys multiple times and some girls too. Plus during our thing old fwbs would hit her up knowing she was with me. During that convo I just lost it emotionally and mentally. We were texting while she was at work I started drinking and tried to fix it asking if she learned anything would she take it back do things different. She doubled down saying she'd do it all again no regrets. At that point I was done called my family to get me from our place and broke up with her. I know I can't respect her the same way again or move past this. But I really love her life was good. Now I'm at my parents' guest room with all my stuff everywhere.
Not sure how to process this or deal. She doesn't wanna talk. So I'm just a mess trying to figure out what to do.
Last updated on:2025-05-07T16:42:38+05:30
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hi, this is bad, she doesn't seem like a good person here in your story, but if i were to ask you, can you even imaginr this person as a mother of your kids and responsible? sometimes the person we want is someone we made up in our head not the person that is literally there, I'm sending prayers
You fr broke up with her over her body count?
Nah not that it's the three plus stuff. Like I can't unsee it it's stuck in my brain. I know people do it and it's not a big deal for them but it feels super icky to me. Feels like a hard boundary crossed and even if it was just trying stuff and you regret it that's one thing. But this just feels like way too much.
@nickmick so like yeah that was then you can't rewind tho.
Should she be pressed for just living her life and feeling herself? Like why kill her confidence?
What's the biggie with not regretting past flings? Would it make you feel better if she was all omg so wrong? Did she even cheat tho?
People could be like nah fam about sex being only two people and still be right like polyamory hookups friends with benefits and stuff.
@Yenetmua if she was sorry or could take it back I'd feel way better about it tbh.
Def went off the rails and shouldn't have dipped like that should've waited till she got home and tried to sort it then. Messed up big time there no cap regret that part. But I think the breakup was right just went about it wrong. Still can't change it's a hard no for me. Wouldn't have been the same with her after that and that's not fair to her either.
Btw appreciate you listening tho fr.