my last dude ended things like two months ago. We dated for over two years but went long distance for college like eight months in. First year of LD wasn't too bad but the second year? Major L. We didn't really talk when we were down and I think that's what killed it. One weekend I visited and then two days later he calls and breaks up. Felt so outta nowhere. We said we'd be friends but a week later he's like nah no friends. Since then? Ghosted each other haven't seen him since that visit.
But we still follow each other on Insta. He doesn't post so no real stalking happening. But when our mutuals post pics with him? Can't help but stare a lil too long.
Recently his friend posted pics of them and they looked kinda cozy. Lowkey devastated. Don't know if they're a thing or even thinking about it but he's not the type to be that close with just anyone in a pic so it's def something.
Don't even know how to move on. Don't know how he's doing. He's just stuck in my head. I know we had to break up and long distance was a killer but I still feel like I really love him. He's so ingrained in me. Feels like to know me you gotta know him. Every time something new or exciting or hard happens I automatically wanna text him. Then I remember I can't and it just crushes me. Been journaling and talking to friends but it's not the same as telling him about my day.
Feels like I've tried everything new hobbies school trying to like new people and sometimes I feel like I'm actually over it. But healing ain't linear and I always end up back in this deep sad missing him phase.
No real bad blood and we ended things okayish I think? But I'm really struggling to find myself again.
Last updated on:2025-05-07T18:01:21+05:30
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Right now it feels like you’ll never move on but one day you’ll wake up and realize you spent a whole day without thinking about him. And that day is coming.
No bad blood just distance. It makes the heartbreak more confusing but sometimes no closure IS the closure.
Seeing him in pictures wondering about his life feeling like a part of you is missing it’s all part of the process. Give yourself grace.
The urge to reach out to check in to share your life with him won’t go away overnight.
Your heart still wants the familiarity of him but just because something was familiar doesn’t mean it was meant to last. One day you’ll feel whole again without him.
Missing someone who was such a big part of your life is normal but that doesn’t mean they were meant to stay forever. You’re allowed to grieve what was while still moving forward.
the knowing you means knowing him thing? Woah. That hits different. So sorry you're dealing with this tho. My take? Ignore all advice lol just listen to yourself. Actually hear what you need. Cry laugh eat just try stuff. Keep trying fr. There aren't many genuinely kind people out there with real hearts. It's rare. You're special tho don't forget that.
Hi you, i was in exact same position last month, devastated, exhausted, my ex of 1 and a half year called to end our relationship because he wants to focus on greater things and I'm no longer his priority nor his business, bad news is i still have to see that guy in school and i am lowkey questioning everything, he said that he adores his previous crush but when i ask if he likes her he denies it, but i didn't really trust that, he moved on faster and I'm still crashing out, funny enough he reached out to me 2 weeks ago and asked if he can restart things, and then dumped me again in just 5 days, everything was shitty enough and i wanted him even if he did me wrong, your effort is worth it, it may ease your pain little by little, but do not expect fast progress, you fall back and forth and that is humane, completely understandable, i didn't really get into argument with him, so there's no bad guy to blame, and when this happen you often tryna find his faults or yours, but please know that your love was real, everything was real, i want you to cry it out as much as you can, as much as you want for the first few moments, and start to heal when you're done, it's never fast and steady, but you're bigger than that, i want you to talk it out to chatgpt, or therapists, teachers, friends, whatever it is, and please keep updating here, love